Apr 222016
 

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We know you love The Pleasure Chest as much as we do! This week we welcome Sarah Tomchesson, Head of Business Operations, who will pull back the curtain to share 45 years of history from The Pleasure Chest and go behind-the-scenes of selling sex toys. Sarah talks about how she found her calling in sex ed, what free workshops are happening at their stores around the country, and she also helps Tristan answer listener questions on pegging and what happens when you don’t like the way your butthole looks.

Tune in Friday, April 22nd at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET to hear this show premiere or listen to it on demand as a podcast. Join the discussion on Twitter where we livetweet each week. Sex Out Loud airs every Friday, you can listen along on your computer, tablet, or phone, find all the ways at SexOutLoudRadio.com If you missed any part of the episode or want to listen again, you can listen to every episode on demand here. Got a question or comment for the show? Call the SOL Hotline: 323-SEX-8266. Leave us your questions, stories, comments, and requests — 24/7 and we’ll play it on the air! (Or you can stay anonymous and ask Tristan to read it aloud.)

How to listen to Sex Out Loud radio?
~ Click on this link when the show starts at 5pm PT/8pm ET (or the next day to listen on demand!)
~ Download the VoiceAmerica app and tune in to the Variety Channel on Friday
~ Subscribe to the podcast on iTunes or Stitcher

Since 1971, The Pleasure Chest has helped pioneer a sex positive culture, with an emphasis on education, enjoyment and inclusivity. For 45 years, Pleasure Chest has been a resource for the best products and the most accurate information to make your life sexier. With five stores in New York, Chicago and Los Angeles as well as online, Pleasure Chest offers every customer a specialized experience in a judgment-free environment, a huge variety of toys and a regular series of free workshops to promote healthy, pleasurable and fulfilling sex for everyone. Sarah Tomchesson has been with the Pleasure Chest for over 7 years and has seen the company through a number of exciting endeavors including launching a totally free, weekly education series, which heavily features Pleasure Chest-trained educators, developing and producing SexIsBack.com a sexual storytelling campaign, and opening the first new locations in 30 years.

 

Apr 152016
 

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I am so thrilled to have the amazing Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore on the show this week! Sycamore is author of the memoir, The End of San Francisco, winner of a 2014 Lambda Literary Award, and has edited numerous provocative anthologies including Nobody Passes, That’s Revolting and the more recent, Why Are Faggots So Afraid of Faggots? We talk radical queer culture, resisting assimilation and binary, survival strategies, sex work, and rejecting the rules of conformity. Find out why The Stranger calls her ‘a gender-fucking tower of pure pulsing purple fabulous.’

Tune in Friday, April 15th at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET to hear this show premiere or listen to it on demand as a podcast. Join the discussion on Twitter where we livetweet each week. Sex Out Loud airs every Friday, you can listen along on your computer, tablet, or phone, find all the ways at SexOutLoudRadio.com If you missed any part of the episode or want to listen again, you can listen to every episode on demand here. Got a question or comment for the show? Call the SOL Hotline: 323-SEX-8266. Leave us your questions, stories, comments, and requests — 24/7 and we’ll play it on the air! (Or you can stay anonymous and ask Tristan to read it aloud.)

Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore is a flaming queen dedicated to keeping the fire burning. She’s the author of a memoir and two novels, and the editor of five nonfiction anthologies. Her most recent title, The End of San Francisco,  won a 2014 Lambda Literary Award, and her most recent anthology, Why Are Faggots So Afraid of Faggots?: Flaming Challenges to Masculinity, Objectification, and the Desire to Conform, was an American Library Association Stonewall Honor Book. She recently finished a mesmerizing third novel, Sketchtasy, and hopefully the right publisher will snatch it up soon.

Apr 062016
 

Tune in for an hour with Sandra Daugherty aka Sex Nerd Sandra from the popular Nerdist podcast, live in the studio with Tristan Taormino. They’re talking oral sex advice, funny sex stories, sexual and gender fluidity, and how to do a sexual act for the first time while setting yourself up for success. Questions from listeners will also be taken. – Sandra and Tristan will be together in our LA studio LIVE, so call in and join the conversation! 866-472-5788

Tune in to Sex Out Loud this Friday, April 8th at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET. Join the discussion on Twitter @SexOutLoudRadio, or e-mail me via tristan(at)puckerup.com and she’ll read them live. If you can’t call us live, leave a voicemail on the SOL Hotline: 323-SEX-8266. Call us with your questions, stories, comments, and requests — 24/7 and we’ll play it on the air!

How to listen to Sex Out Loud radio?
~ Click on this link when the show starts at 5pm PT/8pm ET (or the next day to listen on demand!)
~ Download the VoiceAmerica app and tune in to the Variety Channel on Friday
~ Subscribe to the podcast on iTunes or Stitcher

Sandra Daugherty punches sexual shame in the face. Also known as Sex Nerd Sandra, she speaks, educates, hosts, podcasts and pundits. Her sex-positive teaching methods include heavy doses of physical comedy, playful insight and delightful factoids. Known the world over for her Nerdist Industries podcast, “Sex Nerd Sandra,” its loyal listenership (almost 13 million downloads) is vocal about Sandra’s impact, describing her as “inspiring” with “contagious enthusiasm” and an “awesome nerd-like ability that [she’s] not afraid to show.” Sandra can be seen on Fusion TV (The Search for Sexy), The Young Turks (Think Tank, Common Room, The Point) and weekly in your earholes. Born and raised in Los Angeles, she is an avid traveler and lover of big questions. Find her on Twitter @SexNerdSandra.

Mar 272016
 

This Friday, Tristan Taormino welcomes Jaclyn Friedman to Sex Out Loud – they will be together in our LA studio LIVE, so call in and join the conversation! 866-472-5788

JFheadshotLB-1-300x199Jaclyn Friedman is a writer, speaker and activist, and creator of the hit books Yes Means Yes: Visions of Female Sexual Power and a World Without Rape (one of Publishers’ Weekly’s Top 100 Books of 2009, and #11 on Ms. Magazine’s Top 100 Feminist Nonfiction of All Time list) and What You Really Really Want: The Smart Girl’s Shame-Free Guide to Sex & Safety. Her popular podcast, Unscrewed, is paving new paths to sexual liberation.

As an undergraduate, Jaclyn thought she was too smart to become a victim of sexual assault – until another student proved her wrong. That experience eventually led her to become a student and instructor of IMPACT safety training. At IMPACT, she helped bring safety skills to the communities which most need them, including gang-involved high school students and women transitioning out of abusive relationships.

Friedman’s work has popularized the “yes means yes” standard of sexual consent that is quickly becoming law on many US campuses. She has also helped redefine the concept of “healthy sexuality,” starting with two landmark pieces: the interview “F*cking While Feminist” and the highly personal polemic “My Sluthood, Myself,” which together inspired thousands of responses and explorations across the blogosphere and beyond. Her insistence that authentic sexual liberation is a necessary condition to end the systemic sexualization and violation of women led Lyn Mikel Brown (Co-founder of SPARK and Professor of Education and Women’s, Gender, and Sexuality Studies, Colby College) to call her “this generation’s version of Dr. Ruth.”

Friedman is a popular speaker on campuses and at conferences across the U.S. and beyond. She has been a guest on the Today Show, Nightline, PBS News Hour, the Melissa Harris-Perry Show, and numerous other radio and television shows, and her commentary has appeared in outlets including CNN, Time, The Washington Post, The Nation, Jezebel and The Huffington Post. She is a SheSource expert and a Progressive Women’s Voices alumna, and was named one of 2009’s Top 40 Progressive Leaders Under 40 by the New Leaders Council. Friedman is a founder and the former Executive Director of Women, Action & the Media, where she led the successful #FBrape campaign to apply Facebook’s hate-speech ban to content that promotes gender-based violence. Friedman also holds an MFA in creative writing from Emerson College.

Tune in Friday, April 1 at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET to hear this show. Join the discussion on Twitter where we livetweet each week. Sex Out Loud airs every Friday, you can listen along on your computer, tablet, or phone, find all the ways at SexOutLoudRadio.com. If you missed any part of the episode or want to listen again, you can listen to every episode on demand here.

Mar 252016
 
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Ignacio Rivera – activist, writer, educator, filmmaker, performance artist and mother – returns to Sex Out Loud after being one of our first guests in 2012. Ignacio has spoken publicly about being a survivor and sex worker, and how the elimination of sex/sex education coupled with patriarchy, capitalism and homophobia have had a damaging effect on society. They are a 2016 Just Beginnings Collaborative Fellow and currently working on The Heal Project, a campaign to help create dialogue and encourage intentional, proactive sex positivity for survivors of sexual abuse.

Tune in to Sex Out Loud this Friday, March 25th at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET. This week’s show is LIVE so call in to Voice America with questions and comments at 1-866-472-5788, join the discussion on Twitter @SexOutLoudRadio, or e-mail me via tristan(at)puckerup.com and I’ll read them live on the air. If you can’t call us live, leave a voicemail on the SOL Hotline: 323-SEX-8266. Call us with your questions, stories, comments, and requests — 24/7 and we’ll play it on the air!

ignacio-2Ignacio Rivera is a Queer, Trans, Two-Spirit, Black-Boricua Taíno who prefers the gender-neutral pronoun “they.” Ignacio has spoken nationally and internationally on racism, sexism, LGBTQ issues, anti-oppression, anti-violence, sexual liberation, multi-issue organizing and more. Ignacio’s work has manifested itself through skits, one-person shows, poetry, lectures, workshops, and experimental film. Ignacio is the founder of Poly Patao Productions, sporadically blogs on WhatTheySaidBlog.com, is one of the founding board members of Queers for Economic Justice as well as one of the 2016 Just Beginnings Collaborative Fellows. Just Beginnings Collaborative (JBC) is a movement building platform designed to initiate, cultivate, and fund strategic efforts to end child sexual abuse.

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Mar 182016
 

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Tonight’s episode celebrates the book Coming Out Like a Porn Star: Essays on Pornography, Protection, and Privacy. Hailed as one of the “Best Sex Books of 2015” by Reason Magazine, this pivotal book is the largest published collection of essays written by porn professionals about their industry. Three contributors – Lorelei Lee, James Darling, and Milcah Halili Orbacedo – join us to read from their essays and talk about the book’s release.

Tune in to Sex Out Loud this Friday, March 18th at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET. This week’s show is LIVE so call in to Voice America with questions and comments at 1-866-472-5788, join the discussion on Twitter @SexOutLoudRadio, or e-mail me via tristan(at)puckerup.com and I’ll read them live on the air. If you can’t call us live, leave a voicemail on the SOL Hotline: 323-SEX-8266. Call us with your questions, stories, comments, and requests — 24/7 and we’ll play it on the air!

lorelei-091Lorelei Lee has been an adult film performer since 2000 and a director since 2009.  Her writing has appeared in Salon, The Rumpus, Wired, Denver Quarterly, The Los Angeles Review of Books, and elsewhere. She is a contributor to The Feminist Porn Book and the cowriter of About Cherry, distributed by IFC Films. You can find her tweeting about politics and books @MissLoreleiLee, and about naked people @XOXOLoreleiLee.

jamesdarlingbedJames Darling is a bay area based trans adult performer, sex educator and director. James was included on the Trans 100 for his work in the adult industry, two time Transgender Erotica Awards FTM Performer of the year, Feminist Porn Awards Heartthrob of the Year and has been nominated numerous times at AVN, XBiz, and Cybersocket as a performer and director. Darling’s rise in porn began with his performance debut on CrashPadSeries.com, and continued with queer and trans porn studios, including T-Wood Pictures, TROUBLEfilms, Alternadudes and Buck Angel Entertainment. In 2012 James launched FTMFUCKER.com, one of the first all FTM porn membership sites and has since released four feature length films. His work has been featured internationally at film festivals, universities and conferences on topics related to trans issues, sex worker rights and privacy. You can find more of James Darling’s adventures on Twitter and Tumblr at JamesDarlingxxx.

Milcah Halili OrbacedoMilcah Halili Orbacedo is a writer and performer. Their writing has appeared on The Rumpus, Tits and Sass, Witch Craft Mag, Breakthrough, and Vice. Most of their adult film work can be found at Kink.com. They are obsessed with their work-in-progress memoir, Sisterhood, meditations on their intimate writer and pornographer friends. Follow Milcah on Twitter @SlutSmartSoul.

Jan 092016
 

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Host Tristan Taormino recorded this two-part episode in front a of a live studio audience at the world-famous Pleasure Chest in West Hollywood. Her amazing line up of special guests includes: the reigning 2015 AVN BBW Performer of the Year April Flores; sex educator and host of the Sex Nerd Sandra podcast Sandra Daugherty; writer, teacher, and former porn performer Conner Habib; and current Southern California Leather Master titleholder Orpheus Black. In Part 2, guests talk about everything from fat girl fantasies and dominance to the myths of the Great Dick/Brain Divide. We take audience questions about Master/slave relationships, BDSM beginners, diversity in sex education, and more, then share our resolutions for the New Year.

About the Special Guests:

sandra smile FinalSandra Daugherty punches sexual shame in the face. Also known as Sex Nerd Sandra, she speaks, educates, hosts, podcasts and pundits. Her sex-positive teaching methods include heavy doses of physical comedy, playful insight and delightful factoids. Known the world over for her Nerdist Industries podcast, “Sex Nerd Sandra,” its loyal listenership (almost 13 million downloads) is vocal about Sandra’s impact, describing her as “inspiring” with “contagious enthusiasm” and an “awesome nerd-like ability that [she’s] not afraid to show.” Sandra can be seen on Fusion TV (The Search for Sexy), The Young Turks (Think Tank, Common Room, The Point) and weekly in your earholes. Born and raised in Los Angeles, she is an avid traveler and lover of big questions. Find her on Twitter @SexNerdSandra.

 

aprilfloresApril Flores is a muse, model, and erotic performer but that’s not even scratching the surface. A fearless voluptuous star with scarlet hair, proponent of the queer community, feminist, sex-positive activist, outspoken advocate of body diversity, glamorous art model, avid kink fan, sub and dom both, and all around powerful woman. April is the first ever BBW to win two consecutive AVN Awards for her groundbreaking work. She has also graced the covers of Bizarre and AVN Magazines, among others, modeled for dozens of fine art photographers, appeared in countless adult films in every genre of the adult industry (from mainstream to queer to kinky to artsy), and spoken out about body image and sexuality at countless venues. She is @TheAprilFlores on Twitter.

OrpheusCurrentOrpheus Black, Southern California’s Leather Master/slave titleholder, is also a published author and erotic educator that specializes in hierarchical dynamics, non-monogamous relationships, and erotic meditation. This two-time Bawdy Storytelling champion has been traveling the country teaching his fun and light-hearted educational events for more than a decade. During this time, Orpheus has become one of California’s most respected educators as well as a favorite interviewee and contributor, lending his expertise to shows such as “Chocolate Radio,” “Night Calls,” “Love, Sex, and Hip Hop,” “The Sex Nerd Sandra Show,” “The Dr. Susan Block Show,” and “The Inner Circle with Neil Strauss.” Orpheus is also a regular presenter at DomConLA and is the founder of Cirque de Sade—a high profile Dominants group whose mission is to advance the art of BDSM through a commitment to innovation, excellence, and active leadership in the D/s, Ms and fetish communities. When not teaching, counseling or performing, Orpheus can be found enjoying his 20-year polyfidelitous, polyamorous relationship with his life partner Indigo Black. He can also be found teaching Urban Survival classes and self defense/MMA classes in his local park.

Conner Habib is an author, a lecturer, and the barwithoutwatermarkVice President of the Adult Performer Advocacy Committee. He’s probably the only person alive who’s won awards for writing, teaching, and porn. He lives in Los Angeles, and his twitter is @connerhabib.

 

 

 

Jan 022016
 

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Host Tristan Taormino recorded this two-part episode in front a of a live studio audience at the world-famous Pleasure Chest in West Hollywood. Her amazing line up of special guests includes: the reigning 2015 AVN BBW Performer of the Year April Flores; sex educator and host of the Sex Nerd Sandra podcast Sandra Daugherty; writer, teacher, and former porn performer Conner Habib; and current Southern California Leather Master titleholder Orpheus Black. In Part 1, they discuss the power of humor in sex ed, mainstream representations of kinky sex, what a plus-size activist can teach us about sexual confidence, and the importance of curiosity in sex. Guests are put to the test when Tristan asks them about their most important sex advice, plus they talk about their favorite sexy gifts to give and receive. We take thought-provoking questions from the audience about consent, anal sex, erotic boundaries, and more.

About the Special Guests:

sandra smile FinalSandra Daugherty punches sexual shame in the face. Also known as Sex Nerd Sandra, she speaks, educates, hosts, podcasts and pundits. Her sex-positive teaching methods include heavy doses of physical comedy, playful insight and delightful factoids. Known the world over for her Nerdist Industries podcast, “Sex Nerd Sandra,” its loyal listenership (almost 13 million downloads) is vocal about Sandra’s impact, describing her as “inspiring” with “contagious enthusiasm” and an “awesome nerd-like ability that [she’s] not afraid to show.” Sandra can be seen on Fusion TV (The Search for Sexy), The Young Turks (Think Tank, Common Room, The Point) and weekly in your earholes. Born and raised in Los Angeles, she is an avid traveler and lover of big questions. Find her on Twitter @SexNerdSandra.

 

aprilfloresApril Flores is a muse, model, and erotic performer but that’s not even scratching the surface. A fearless voluptuous star with scarlet hair, proponent of the queer community, feminist, sex-positive activist, outspoken advocate of body diversity, glamorous art model, avid kink fan, sub and dom both, and all around powerful woman. April is the first ever BBW to win two consecutive AVN Awards for her groundbreaking work. She has also graced the covers of Bizarre and AVN Magazines, among others, modeled for dozens of fine art photographers, appeared in countless adult films in every genre of the adult industry (from mainstream to queer to kinky to artsy), and spoken out about body image and sexuality at countless venues. She is @TheAprilFlores on Twitter.

OrpheusCurrentOrpheus Black, Southern California’s Leather Master/slave titleholder, is also a published author and erotic educator that specializes in hierarchical dynamics, non-monogamous relationships, and erotic meditation. This two-time Bawdy Storytelling champion has been traveling the country teaching his fun and light-hearted educational events for more than a decade. During this time, Orpheus has become one of California’s most respected educators as well as a favorite interviewee and contributor, lending his expertise to shows such as “Chocolate Radio,” “Night Calls,” “Love, Sex, and Hip Hop,” “The Sex Nerd Sandra Show,” “The Dr. Susan Block Show,” and “The Inner Circle with Neil Strauss.” Orpheus is also a regular presenter at DomConLA and is the founder of Cirque de Sade—a high profile Dominants group whose mission is to advance the art of BDSM through a commitment to innovation, excellence, and active leadership in the D/s, Ms and fetish communities. When not teaching, counseling or performing, Orpheus can be found enjoying his 20-year polyfidelitous, polyamorous relationship with his life partner Indigo Black. He can also be found teaching Urban Survival classes and self defense/MMA classes in his local park.

Conner Habib is an author, a lecturer, and the barwithoutwatermarkVice President of the Adult Performer Advocacy Committee. He’s probably the only person alive who’s won awards for writing, teaching, and porn. He lives in Los Angeles, and his twitter is @connerhabib.

 

 

 

Dec 262015
 

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On New Year’s Day, we’re doing a rebroadcast of one of Tristan’s favorite episodes. In this special edition of the show, recorded at CatalystCon West 2015, sex educators Cindy Lee Alves, Anaín Bjorkquist, and Aida Manduley talk about their work with the Women of Color Sexual Health Network (WOCSHN). We talk about respectability politics, advancing racial justice in sex education, and expanding awareness of how race intersects with sexuality. Find out what people are not talking about in the field of sexuality as well as tips for white educators who want to be allies and take a more intersectional approach to their work.

FaceCindy Lee Alves, M.Ed is a doctoral candidate at Widener University’s Center for Sexuality Studies, where she also earned her Master’s in Education. Her research interests include sexual orientation, gender, pleasure, and intersectionality. Currently, Cindy teaches human sexuality courses at various colleges in NY and NJ, as well as guest lectures and provides workshops for adults and young people.

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Aida Manduley is an award-winning bilingual powerhouse trained as a social worker, sexuality educator, and nonprofit management professional. Hailing from Puerto Rico and with firm roots in LGBTQ activism, she regularly blogs about social justice issues and has presented across North America on a variety of sexuality topics and their intersections with issues such as digital literacy and anti-racism. Aida’s currently pursuing her Master’s of Social Work at Boston University—with a focus on aging populations—and holds a B.A. in Gender and Sexuality Studies from Brown University. Her primary affiliations are with the Women of Color Sexual Health Network, where she serves on the executive committee, and The Center for Sexual Pleasure & Health, where she has worked since 2010 and now acts as a consultant. Past projects include sexual health and LGBTQ work at a domestic violence agency, crisis-response with victims of assault, and leadership on a number of national and regional coalitions on HIV prevention, sexuality education, and LGBTQ anti-violence.

Anaín Bjorkquist is a speaker, certified sex educator, sex + wellness coach and published erotica writer. Her life’s purpose is to serve women as a companion and guide on the journey from yearning to thanainbjorkquistriving. Anaín’s mission is to help women ditch perfection for pleasure. Her writing, weekly podcast Sex Love Joy and live workshops teach women how to consciously let go, trust their intuition and embody turn on. Anaín is dedicated to bringing fierce women together because the best learning and personal growth happens within intimate groups of women sharing their experiences. She’s ready to teach you the art of Orgasmic Self Love over at anainbjorkquist.com

 

Tune in Friday, January 1 at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET to hear this show premiere. Join the discussion on Twitter where we livetweet each week. Sex Out Loud airs every Friday, you can listen along on your computer, tablet, or phone, find all the ways at SexOutLoudRadio.com. If you missed any part of the episode or want to listen again, you can listen to every episode on demand here.

 

 

 

Dec 232015
 

We’re rebroadcasting one of Tristan’s absolute favorite episodes on Christmas Day with Bridgett Everett!

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On the July 10th episode of Sex Out Loud, hear Tristan talk in person with singer and comedienne Bridget Everett about growing up in Kansas, writing and singing original dirty songs (on everything from boobs to anal sex), her bawdy onstage shenanigans, performing with Adam Horowitz and her band The Tender Moments, opening for Amy Schumer, singing with Patti Lupone, her brand of sex-positive and body-positive feminist performance, and her new Comedy Central special Gynecological Wonder. Plus, hear samples of her band’s new album Pound It!

Tune in Friday, December 25 at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET to hear this show premiere. Join the discussion on Twitter where we livetweet each week. Sex Out Loud airs every Friday, you can listen along on your computer, tablet, or phone, find all the ways at SexOutLoudRadio.com. If you missed any part of the episode or want to listen again, you can listen to every episode on demand here.bridget feminist

Bridget Everett is a singing tour de force known for her funny yet gut-wrenching, outrageous and unpredictable performance work. She’s been dubbed “Wynona Judd meets Melissa Etheridge, via the local bar floozy, on a rocket ship out of Twin Peaks” by Michael Musto from the Village Voice. She has appeared frequently on Time Out New York’s annual list of top cabaret performers, ranking number one in 2010 on a list which included Alan Cumming and Elaine Stritch. Bridget co-hosted Our Hit Parade, a sold-out monthly revue of current pop hits, with Kenny Mellman (Kiki and Herb) and Neal Medlyn at Joe’s Pub. She starred in the original musical At Least It’s Pink based on her life which she co-wrote with director Michael Patrick King (writer/director of hit tv series Sex and the City) and Mellman which played Ars Nova for 12 weeks. She can be seen as Cathy in the Sex and the City movie and as Shonda in the CBS hit comedy, 2 Broke Girls. Her latest show is Rock Bottom, which she co-wrote and performs at Joe’s Pub. Her Comedy Central special BRIDGET IN RED DRESS“Gynecological Wonder” debuts on July 11, 2015. Bridget’s monthly shows with her band The Tender Moments have grown a cult-like following and have had guest appearances by Patti LuPone, Fred Armisen, Flea, Marc Shaiman, Tonya Pinkins, Jake Shears and more.