Dec 262014
 

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Today, December 26th, is our last live episode of Sex Out Loud on Voice America (don’t worry – I’m not leaving radio/podcasting forever, just ending an amazing run on the Voice America Variety channel). I’ll be live chatting with a dear friend of mine, Dr. Winston Wilde, sexologist and therapist discuss our experiences with sexual fetishes. We will discuss why they scare people, how to safely act on them, and what place they have in the diverse spectrum of human sexuality. Dr. Wilde will also discuss his work with the Desert Center for Sexuality whose public services promote sexual health and happiness, provide sex education to diverse audiences, create and sustain community, and expand the awareness of sexual culture through art.

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This week’s show is LIVE and it’s your last time to call in to Voice America with questions and comments at 1-866-472-5788, join the discussion on Facebook or Twitter, or e-mail me via tristan(at)puckerup.com and I’ll read them live on the air. Tune in to Sex Out Loud every Friday, you can listen along on your computer, tablet, or phone, find all the ways at SexOutLoudRadio.com!

Dr. Winston Wilde received his Masters in Clinical Psychology (MA) fromAntioch University, Los Angeles, 1997, and Doctor of Human Sexuality (DHS) from the Institute for the Advanced Study of Human Sexuality in San Francisco in 1999. As a psychotherapist, he is licensed by the State of California (#MFC39060) at the Board of Behavioral Sciences in Sacramento and is a member of the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists. After years of endless documentation, he was finally certified by the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors and Therapists as a Sex Educator (2002), Sex Therapist (2004) and Sex Therapy Supervisor (2009). He is serving as Advisory Committee Chair for the Monette-Horwitz Trust and is the past president (2010) of the Western Region of the Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality. Born in Hollywood, raised in Santa Monica, Wilde has travelled many places in the world, but always come back to Our Village of The Angels. His life has been circuitous, taking him into paths untrodden, into radical sexualities and diverse spiritual practices. Other adventures include sexology conferences in Cuba and India, radical faerie gatherings and Old Guard traditions, trekking the Himalayas, observing days at a time of devotional silence, Buddhist monastery stays, and helping mid-wife people as they die.

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Dec 112014
 

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Author, activist, and veteran Kristin Beck joins me on Sex Out Loud this Friday, December 12th, at 8 pm ET / 5 pm PT to discuss her work as a US Navy Seal, transitioning after her military, and coming out as transgender to a worldwide audience with Anderson Cooper on CNN. We’ll discuss her documentary “Lady Valor” which has found success at film festivals across the country and her commitment to achieving true liberty through open service for transgender people in the US Military.

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Kristin Beck is an author, activist and veteran who served for 20 years, through 13 deployments, as a US Navy SEAL. In her military career, she distinguished herself with Special Operations Forces at SEAL Team One, SEAL Team Five, Naval Special Warfare Development Group (SEAL TEAM Six) and the Headquarters at SOCOM. She received the Bronze star with Valor, Purple Heart, Defense Meritorious Service Medal and many other awards. She retired in 2011 with the rank of Senior Chief and continued high-level security work for the US government, including the Pentagon. In a 2013 she appeared on CNN with Anderson Cooper and spoke about her life as transgender person beginning as a boy from a Christian family through her time in the SEALs. A follow on documentary with CNN “Lady Valor” has been seen by over 10 million Americans in the month of September 2014. She works daily with Pentagon and Government Officials toward true liberty and equality within the ranks of the Department of Defense.

 

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Oct 072014
 

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This Friday on Sex Out Loud, I interview professional dominant, counselor, and human sexuality consultant Dr. Morgana Maye. Her work as a Kink Counselor helps individuals, couples, and multi-partner relationships better understand and explore their desire. We’ll discuss navigating taboo kinks – any and all kinks are fair game for our discussion! – as well as issues concerning two-bottom or two-top households and how to come out to and find partners who will share your kink.

This week’s show is LIVE so call in with questions and comments at 1-866-472-5788, join the discussion on Facebook or Twitter, or e-mail me via tristan(at)puckerup.com and I’ll read them live on the air. Tune in to Sex Out Loud every Friday, you can listen along on your computer, tablet, or phone, find all the ways at SexOutLoudRadio.com!

Dr. Morgana Maye is a San Francisco-based professional dominant, counselor, and human sexuality consultant. She teaches people how to fully express their kinky desires without shame, and empowers them with the language and skills necessary to negotiate loving and lasting kink-positive relationships. Dr. Maye is the owner Maison de la Maitresse, San Francisco’s premiere boutique dungeon. She has both Master’s and Doctorate degrees in Clinical Psychology, with a post-doctoral specialty in forensics and working with sexual behavior problems. Her writing has appeared in Best American Erotica, Politically Inspired, and Sex for America, and she is the writer and host of the instructional video Whipsmart: A Good Vibrations Guide to Beginning S/M.

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Sep 252014
 

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Award-winning author Cecilia Tan joins me this Friday, September 26th live to talk about erotica, sensuality, BDSM, bisexuality, activism, and her latest book, Slow Satisfaction, the third novel in the Struck By Lightning trilogy. Tune in to Sex Out Loud every Friday, you can listen along on your computer, tablet, or phone, find all the ways at SexOutLoudRadio.com!

This week’s show is LIVE so call in with questions and comments at 1-866-472-5788, join the discussion on Facebook or Twitter, or e-mail me via tristan(at)puckerup.com and I’ll read them live on the air.

ceciliatan_133px_wideCecilia Tan is “simply one of the most important writers, editors, and innovators in contemporary American erotic literature,” according to Susie Bright. Her BDSM romance novel Slow Surrender (Hachette/Forever, 2013) won the RT Reviewers Choice Award in Erotic Romance. Tan is the author of many books, including the ground-breaking erotic short story collections Black Feathers (HarperCollins), White Flames (Running Press), and Edge Plays (Circlet Press), and the erotic romances Slow Surrender, Slow Seduction, and Slow Satisfaction (Hachette/Forever), The Prince’s Boy (Circlet Press), The Hot Streak (Riverdale Avenue Books), and the Magic University series (new editions forthcoming from Riverdale Avenue Books in October 2014). Her short stories have appeared in Ms. Magazine, Nerve, Best American Erotica, Asimov’s Science Fiction, and tons of other places.

Tan was inducted into the Saints & Sinners Hall of Fame for GLBT writers in 2010, was a recipient of the Lifetime Achievement Award from the National Leather Association in 2004, and won the inaugural Rose & Bay Awards for Best Fiction in 2010 for her crowdfunded web fiction serial Daron’s Guitar Chronicles. She holds a bachelors degree in cognitive and linguistic sciences from Brown and a masters in professional writing from Emerson. She lives in the Boston area with her lifelong partner corwin and three cats. Find out more at www.ceciliatan.com. Her current project is another BDSM contemporary romance series for Hachette/Grand Central/Forever Yours that — like Slow Surrender — will explore BDSM, rock stars, and fame.

Jul 222014
 

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This week’s guest on Sex Out Loud is Lisa Vandever: a producer and consultant with over twenty years of experience in film and television. She seized the unique opportunity to combine two of her overriding fixations, film and sexuality. Founded in 2003, CineKink recognizes and encourages the positive depiction of sexuality and kink in film and television, most visibly through its annual film festival, CineKink NYC. We’ll discuss media representations of alternative sexuality, visual depictions of kink, and the intersections of film and sexuality.

This week’s show is LIVE. Find out all the ways to listen here so you can call in with questions and comments at 1-866-472-5788, join the discussion on Facebook or Twitter, or e-mail me via tristan(at)puckerup.com and I’ll read them live on the air.

As co-founder and director of CineKink, an organization that recognizes and encourages the positive depiction of sexuality in film and television, Lisa Vandever curates and oversees an annual film festival and touring series, designed to promote and showcase such works. Billing itself as “the kinky film festival,” with offerings drawn from both the independent cinema world and the adult, works presented at CineKink, currently in its eleventh season, range from documentary to drama, comedy to experimental, slightly spicy to quite explicit–and everything in between. A producer and consultant with over twenty years of experience in film and television, Vandever was formerly the director of programming for a regional network of public television stations, worked as a development executive for two New York-based independent production companies and was associate producer of the Sundance award-winning feature film, “Songcatcher.”

Seizing the unique opportunity to combine two of her overriding fixations, film and sexuality, Vandever previously co-founded the New York S/M Film Festival, which ran 2000-2002. Over the years she has also consulted with media distributors on how to best reach sexuality communities, and has advised filmmakers on how to present their works to a wider market. In addition to serving on the board of directors of the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom, she also volunteered on its media committee, alerting community members to media presentations of alternative sexuality, and encouraging feedback. She has spoken several times on the intersection of film and sexuality at the prestigious SXSW conference, with additional appearances including the International Film Festival Summit, Film Festival Academy, DIY Convention, Sex 2.0, MomentumCon, CatyalystCon and Leather Leadership Conference. She is proud to have once stumped the panel as a guest during a round of “What’s My Fetish?” on the Radio Chick Show …and she probably watches a lot less porn than everyone seems to think she does.

Sex Out Loud airs every Friday at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET on the VoiceAmerica Variety channel. You can listen on your computer, phone, or tablet, find all the ways here!

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Jun 112014
 

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Logan Levkoff, PhD, sexuality educator, sexologist, and author talks to me this Friday on Sex Out Loud about designing sex ed programs, becoming an AASECT certified sex educator, and empowering children, adolescents, and adults to embrace their sexuality and challenge the impractical, and often unhealthy, messages that they are exposed to. She’ll talk about her latest book, “Got Teens? The Doctor Moms’ Guide to Sexuality, Social Media, and Other Adolescent Realities” and answer questions from listeners on how to navigate conversations with teens and the best ways to create sexually healthy adults.

This week’s show is LIVE. Find out all the ways to listen here so you can call in with questions and comments at 1-866-472-5788, join the discussion on Facebook or Twitter, or e-mail me via tristan(at)puckerup.com and I’ll read them live on the air.

Dr. Logan Levkoff is an internationally recognized expert on sexuality and relationships. She encourages honest conversation about sexuality and the role it plays in our culture. Dr. Levkoff makes it clear that sex and sexuality are not “dirty” words; she works to create an environment where people feel comfortable asking (and getting answers to) their most personal questions. Dr. Levkoff empowers children, adolescents, and adults to embrace their sexuality and challenge the impractical, and often unhealthy, messages that they are exposed to. As a thought leader in the field of human sexuality, Dr. Levkoff is a regular contributor to television shows including Good Morning America, The Today Show, The CBS Early Show, Nightline, Fox News Channel, and CNN. She is also the host of CafeMom’s show, Mom Ed: In the Bedroom. Dr. Levkoff is the author of three books: Got Teens? The Doctor Moms’ Guide to Sexuality, Social Media, and Other Adolescent Realities (Seal Press, 2014), Third Base Ain’t What it Used to Be: What Your Kids are Learning About Sex Today and How to Teach Them to Become Sexually Healthy Adults (Open Road Media, May 2012), and How to Get Your Wife to Have Sex with You (Good in Bed Publications, October 2011), She is also a contributor to the anthology, Fifty Writers on Fifty Shades (BenBella Books, November 2012) and ToughLove (Simon & Schuster, 2014). In addition to her own work, Dr. Levkoff is a trusted source for many publications and blogs for The Huffington Post. For over a decade, Dr. Levkoff has been teaching groups of all ages and from a variety of backgrounds. She has designed and implemented sexuality education programs, faculty development, and parent education in many secular and religious independent schools, universities, medical schools, and community organizations. Dr. Levkoff’s work with teens and parents has been profiled in numerous publications, including The New York Times. She is also on the faculty of the University of Michigan School of Social Work’s Sexual Health Certificate Program. Dr. Levkoff has been a spokesperson for Trojan, Trojan Vibrations, Trojan Lubricants and serves on the Trojan Sexual Health Advisory Council. She has also served as a spokesperson for The Art of Shaving, a joint project between Starbucks and Yahoo! Personals, Bertolli, Tupperware, and Sealy.

Logan Levkoff is an AASECT certified sex educator and has served on the AASECT Board of Directors. She received her Ph.D. in Human Sexuality, Marriage, and Family Life Education from New York University and an M.S. in Human Sexuality Education and a B.A. in English from the University of Pennsylvania. She lives in New York City with her husband, son, and daughter.

Sex Out Loud airs every Friday at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET on the VoiceAmerica Variety channel. You can listen on your computer, phone, or tablet, find all the ways here!

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May 202014
 

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This Friday on Sex Out Loud at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET, listen to my interview with performer Belle Knox, who became known in March 2013 as “the Duke University pornstar” after being outed by a classmate and then writing about that experience for xojane.com. Since then, Knox has appeared in many media outlets spreading a sex positive message and sex worker equality and this week on Sex Out Loud she talks to me about her experiences, answers my questions (and yours), and tells the story of how she became Belle Knox and what’s next for her.

Originally from Washington State, Belle Knox the sweet and petite 18-year-old XXX starlet entered the world of adult entertainment four months ago. With her fresh, beautiful face and adorable figure, Knox dove into the industry appearing in Reality Kings, Porn Pros, Teen Fidelity/Kelly Madison, Nubiles, Naughty America and X-Art. She has starred in FuckedHard 18, Naughty Cheerleaders 4 and Adam and Eve’s Real College Girls. The 18-year-old Duke University student and adult starlet became national headline news after being outed by a fellow classmate and writing a piece inspired by the experience in popular online magazine www.xojane.com. Since then she has appeared on national shows such as The View, The Independents, Dr. Drew, Piers Morgan and The Howard Stern Show. She has been written about in The Huffington Post, The NY Post, The Daily News, The NY Times and Rolling Stone Magazine.

Sex Out Loud airs every Friday at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET on the VoiceAmerica Variety channel. You can listen on your computer, phone, or tablet, find all the ways here!

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May 052014
 

Tristan & Mom

This Friday, May 9th I celebrate my birthday and the 100th episode of Sex Out Loud with a very special show featuring…my mother! That’s correct: the woman who gave birth to and raised America’s foremost authority on anal sex, open relationships, and feminist porn will join me for a LIVE conversation about my upbringing, sex education, sexual politics and feminism. Plus, my mom and I will take phone calls from listeners! Every single person who calls will win a prize, so don’t be shy: now is your chance to ask my mother anything!

This week’s show is LIVE. Find out all the ways to listen here so you can call in with questions and comments at 1-866-472-5788, join the discussion on Facebook or Twitter, or e-mail me via tristan(at)puckerup.com and I’ll read them live on the air.

Sex Out Loud airs every Friday at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET on the VoiceAmerica Variety channel. You can listen on your computer, phone, or tablet, find all the ways here!

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Apr 222014
 

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This Friday on Sex Out Loud at 8 pm ET / 5 pm PT, I’m thrilled to have two amazing guests on my show! Award-winning artist, performer, playwright, and artistic producer, Regie Cabico has been on two seasons of HBO’s Def Poetry Jam and NPR’s Snap Judgment. The recently dubbed “the Lady Gaga of poetry” shares his spoken word skills in storytelling and humor.  Twanna Hines first started writing about sex anonymously as Funky Brown Chick. The award-winning educator, writer, and media commentator now focuses on the sociology of sexuality and its relationship to culture and technology. This episode was filmed before a live studio audience at CatalystCon East 2014.

Twanna A. Hines, M.S., is an award-winning educator, sex columnist, and TV and radio commentator focused on the sociology of sexuality and its relationship to culture and Internet technology. Founder of FUNKY BROWN CHICK®, she has contributed to CNN, NPR, Sirius, Time Out New York, Lifetime, Mashable, Nerve, New York Press, Fast Company magazine, and the Huffington Post as well as CBC (Canadian National Radio), Paris Première (French Television), and Al Jazeera. She has also been quoted in a host of outlets throughout the U.S., from New York magazine to the San Francisco Chronicle. She is a syndicated sex columnist for Metro International newspapers. Twanna has 15 years experience in education, and she has received certified training in medically-accurate, evidence-based sex education. From speaking at Harvard to working one-on-one with undergraduate students at Florida State University, Hines has taught a broad range of majors with differing levels of academic competencies in both small and large enrollment classes. Her comprehensive approach to education prepares individuals to participate in an increasingly interconnected world, and her commentary on immigration is included in the textbook Migration and Immigration: A Global View. She has worked with health policymakers and elected officials and for the University of Chicago, Newsweek, and U.S. State Department. Having lived in London, Chicago, Amsterdam, New York, Los Angeles and The Hague, she speaks English and Dutch fluently. Raised evangelical Christian in rural Illinois and Mississippi, she received abstinence-only sex education. She can tell you, from first-hand experience, exactly how it functions and why it’s not really education at all. In 2005, strongly believing adults needed a space to discuss sex openly without fearing judgment, she built FUNKY BROWN CHICK®. Called one of “the internet’s sultriest sharers” by the Village Voice, details about her rendezvous have been printed in Glamour magazine.

Regie Cabico. His work appears in over 30 anthologies including Aloud: Voices from the Nuyorican Poets Café, Spoken Word Revolution, Chorus & The Outlaw Bible of American Poetry . He co-edited Poetry Nation,: A North American Anthology of Fusion Poetry and guest editor for Beltway Poetry Quarterly. He has shared the stage with Patti Smith, Allen Ginsberg and through Howard Zinn’s Portraits Project at NYU, has performed with Stanley Tucci, Jesse Eisenberg & Lupe Fiasco. He is a recipient of a 2008 Future Aesthetics Arts Award Regrant from The Ford Foundation/Hip Hop Theater Festival, three New York Foundation for the Arts Fellowships for Poetry and Multidisciplinary Performance, The Larry Neal Awards for Poetry 2007 (3rd Place) and 2008 (1st Place), a 2008 DC Commission for the Arts Poetry Fellowship. He received the 2006 Writers for Writers Award from Poets & Writers for his work teaching at-risk youth at Bellevue Hospital in New York. Other recipients include Arthur Miller, Sharon Olds, Stephen King, Amy Tan & Edward Albee. He is a former Artist In Residence at NYU’s Asian Pacific American Studies Program and has served as faculty at Banff’s Spoken Word Program and Kundiman. As a theater artist he has directed two plays for the 2007 & 2008 Hip Hop Theater Festival,Elegies In The Key Of Funk and The Other Side. He received three New York Innovative Theater Award Nominations for his work in Too Much Light Makes The Baby Go Blind with a win for Best Performance Art Production The Kenyon Review recently named Regie Cabico the “Lady Gaga of Poetry” and he has been listed in BUST magazine’s 100 Men We Love. His plays have been produced at the 2003 Humana Theater Festival (as part of RHYTHMICITY with UniVerses, Reg E. Gaines, Willie Perdomo & Rha Goddess, 2004 Kennedy Center Play Lab, Joe’s Pub The Public Theater Festival, The Asian American Theater Festival, Living Word Festival, San Francisco. The Kitchen, Dixon Place, LaMama, The Philadelphia Fringe Festival, The New York Fringe Festival, Theater Offensive, among other venues. He received three New York Innovative Theater Award nominations for his work in the New York Production of Too Much Light Makes the Baby Go Blind with a 2006 award for Best Performance Art Production. His latest solo play Unbuckled was developed with grants from National Performance Network and Mid-Atlantic Arts Foundation. He has been longtime curator of Composers Collaborative’s Non Sequitur Series presented at Lincoln Center, Here Theater & The Flea Theater. He has been 2006 artist in residence for New York University’s Asian American Studies Program & 2009 artist in residence at Deanza College. He is the Youth Program Coordinator for Split this Rock Poetry Festival and is he artistic director of Sol & Soul, an arts and activist organization. He is the co-founder of SULU DC, a monthly Asian American Performance Series and is the co-director of CAPTURING FIRE: A QUEER SPOKEN WORD SUMMIT.He is pleased to be part of BANFF’s 2011 Spoken Word Faculty.

Sex Out Loud airs every Friday at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET on the VoiceAmerica Variety channel. You can listen on your computer, phone, or tablet, find all the ways here!

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Feb 182014
 
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This week on Sex Out Loud I’m so excited to spend an hour with writer, activist, and New York Times-bestselling author, Janet Mock. Since stepping out into the public eye in 2011, Mock has founded #GirlsLikeUs, a media visibility campaign for trans women, and spoken about issues of identity, safety, health, and community all over the country, including appearances on Melissa Harris-Perry, HBO’s The Out List, and MSNBC Live with Thomas Roberts. Her memoir Redefining Realness: My Path to Womanhood, Identity, Love & So Much More was released in early February and is currently on the New York Times bestseller list. We’ll be talking about her journey to becoming a public activist, the power of writing and storytelling, plus taking live questions from you!

This week’s show is LIVE, which means we’ll be giving away a Sportsheets prize to a lucky fan. Find out all the ways to listen here so you can call in with questions and comments at 1-866-472-5788, join the discussion on Facebook or Twitter, or e-mail me via tristan(at)puckerup.com and I’ll read them live on the air – you could be chosen to win!

Janet Mock is a writer who founded the #Girlslikeus project, a media visibility campaign for trans women. Her memoir “Redefining Realness: My Path to Womanhood, Identity, Love & So Much More” was published in February 2014.  Since sharing her story in 2011 through Marie Claire magazine, Janet has been featured in the HBO documentary The Out List and appears regularly on MSNBC’s Melissa Harris-Perry show. She currently serves on the board of directors for the Arcus Foundation and has been recognized by the Sylvia Rivera Law Project, the Center for American Progress, the Women’s Media Center and GOOD magazine for her work. A native of Honolulu, Janet lives and writes in New York City with her boyfriend Aaron and their cockapoo Cleo. Follow her on Twitter at @janetmock.

Sex Out Loud airs every Friday at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET on the VoiceAmerica Variety channel. You can listen on your computer, phone, or tablet, find all the ways here!

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