Jul 242015
 

Debby Herbenick

This week I talk to Dr. Debby Herbenick, sex researcher, sex educator, and author of the book The Coregasm Workout: The Revolutionary Method For Better Sex Through Exercise. We discuss exercise-induced arousal and exercise-induced orgasms and her research on this area, plus she’ll share some ideas on how you can increase your own sexual desire with specific physical exercises.

Tune in Friday, July 24th at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET. Join the discussion on Facebook or Twitter. Tune in to Sex Out Loud every Friday, you can listen along on your computer, tablet, or phone, find all the ways at SexOutLoudRadio.com.

Debby Herbenick, PhD, MPH is an associate professor in Indiana University’s School of Public Health, director of the Center for Sexual Health Promotion, and a research fellow and sexual health educator at The Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex, Gender, and Reproduction. She is the author of more than 90 scientific publications about sexual health and relationships and a lead scientist on the 2009, 2012, 2013, and 2014 National Surveys of Sexual Health and Behavior.  Passionate about sexuality education, Dr. Herbenick has taught Human Sexuality at IU for the past 12 years, published six books about sex and love (her most recent is “The Coregasm Workout”), published thousands of newspaper and magazine columns about sexuality, and is currently the president-elect of the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (AASECT).  Dr. Herbenick works on a range of research and education projects related to women’s sexual pleasure, pain during intercourse, consumer sexual behavior, sexual assault, love and intimacy, genital self-image, and sexual behavior in the United States. She is also active in her community, providing sexuality education to adolescents and parents, volunteering, and serving as an appointment member of the Monroe County Women’s Commission and as Chair of the Bloomington Commission on the Status of Women.

Jun 242015
 

E Patrick Johnson

This week features my interview with scholar, writer & performer Dr. E. Patrick Johnson, author of Sweet Tea: Black Gay Men of the South, a collection of life stories from black gay men who were born, raised, and continue to live in the southern United States. Traveling to every southern state, Johnson conducted interviews with more than seventy black gay men between the ages 19 and 93. He adapted his book into a hit one-person show, including a recent run in Chicago presented by Project&.  With complexity and raw emotion, Sweet Tea humanizes a community often forced to the outskirts of society. Poignant and often heart-wrenching, Johnson reinforces the spoken-word tradition while challenging stereotypes and finding humor, humanity and hope within.  “Sweet Tea is not a show fixed in history,” says Jane M. Saks, Project& President and Artistic Director, “it is a production of this moment, lending its voice to the necessary global conversations around race, sexuality and identity.”

Tune in to the show on Friday, June 26th at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET. Join the discussion on Facebook or Twitter. Sex Out Loud airs every Friday, you can listen along on your computer, tablet, or phone, find all the ways at SexOutLoudRadio.com.

E. Patrick Johnson is the Carlos Montezuma Professor of Performance Studies and African American Studies at Northwestern University. He is also a Project& artist. He is the author of Appropriating Blackness: Performance and the Politics of Authenticity and Sweet Tea: Black Gay Men of the South—An Oral History. He is the editor of Cultural Struggles: Performance, Ethnography, Praxis by Dwight Conquergood and co-editor (with Mae G. Henderson) of Black Queer Studies—A Critical Anthology and (with Ramon Rivera-Servera) of solo/black/woman: scripts, interviews, and essays and Blaktino Queer Performance. In 2009, he translated Sweet Tea into a full-length stage play, Sweet Tea—The Play. The show has been co-produced by Jane M. Saks and Project& with the following theaters: About Face Theater (Chicago); Signature Theatre (Arlington, VA); Durham Arts Council (Durham, NC); Towne Street Theater (Los Angeles), and the Wirtz Center for the Performing Arts at Northwestern University.

May 062015
 

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This week’s episode is a necessary conversation on a complex topic. Angel, Brecklyn, and Mollena Williams discuss race, racism, and various issues that Black Indigenous People of Color (BIPOC) face in BDSM communities. They tackle the controversy surrounding International Ms. Leather 2015, inclusivity in the kink world, how social media has changed the way we talk about race, the concept of colorblindness, practical advice for white allies, and “the luxury of discomfort.” Recorded live at International Ms. Leather 2015 in San Jose.

Tune in Friday, May 8 at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET. Join the discussion on Facebook or Twitter. Tune in to Sex Out Loud every Friday, you can listen along on your computer, tablet, or phone, find all the ways at SexOutLoudRadio.com.

Angel is a trans gender defiant queer, whose passion lies in educating, advocating and coaching folks to sexual and intimate fulfillment. Angel is committed to social justice and a fully realized and intersectional sex positivity.

Brecklyn is an East Coast-raised stone butch dyke and boy. He’s been active in the leather and kink community over the past 5 years and outside that has facilitated workshops on topics including anti-oppression, trauma, and organic farming. He especially likes to connect with other queer and trans people of color and can be reached on FetLife at theory_nowpractice.

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Owned by “Herr Meister,” (her beloved Maestro, an internationally acclaimed composer) Mollena Williams currently serves as Muse and slave in his heart and home. For her part, she’s an award-winning, critically acclaimed writer, actress, BDSM Educator, and storyteller. She is author of The Toybag Guide: Taboo Play and co-author of Playing Well With Others: Your Guide to Discovering, Exploring and Navigating the Kink, Leather and BDSM Communities. Her perspectives on BDSM are frequently sought after by news sources such as The New York Times, The Huffington Post, Newsweek, Essence, and Ebony, and is a frequent guest expert on Dan Savage’s Savage Lovecast.

Her essays appear in Tristan Taormino’s The Ultimate Guide to Kinky Sex and a bunch of the Best Sex Writing books. She’s a featured educator with KinkAcademy.com. Her award-winning experimental short BDSM film “IMPACT” debuted at Yerba Buena Center for the Arts and has screened in the USA, Canada, Europe and Australia in Cinekink 2013, as well as indie film festivals across North America, Europe and Australia.

She is International Ms. Leather 2010 and Ms. SF Leather 2009, was honored with the 2012 Jack McGeorge Award for Excellence in Education in BDSM, and is thrilled to have won the National Leather Association’s 2011 and 2012 Cynthia Slater Non-Fiction Article Award and shared the 2013 Geoff Mains Non-Fiction book award for Playing Well with Others.

Dec 262014
 

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Today, December 26th, is our last live episode of Sex Out Loud on Voice America (don’t worry – I’m not leaving radio/podcasting forever, just ending an amazing run on the Voice America Variety channel). I’ll be live chatting with a dear friend of mine, Dr. Winston Wilde, sexologist and therapist discuss our experiences with sexual fetishes. We will discuss why they scare people, how to safely act on them, and what place they have in the diverse spectrum of human sexuality. Dr. Wilde will also discuss his work with the Desert Center for Sexuality whose public services promote sexual health and happiness, provide sex education to diverse audiences, create and sustain community, and expand the awareness of sexual culture through art.

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This week’s show is LIVE and it’s your last time to call in to Voice America with questions and comments at 1-866-472-5788, join the discussion on Facebook or Twitter, or e-mail me via tristan(at)puckerup.com and I’ll read them live on the air. Tune in to Sex Out Loud every Friday, you can listen along on your computer, tablet, or phone, find all the ways at SexOutLoudRadio.com!

Dr. Winston Wilde received his Masters in Clinical Psychology (MA) fromAntioch University, Los Angeles, 1997, and Doctor of Human Sexuality (DHS) from the Institute for the Advanced Study of Human Sexuality in San Francisco in 1999. As a psychotherapist, he is licensed by the State of California (#MFC39060) at the Board of Behavioral Sciences in Sacramento and is a member of the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists. After years of endless documentation, he was finally certified by the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors and Therapists as a Sex Educator (2002), Sex Therapist (2004) and Sex Therapy Supervisor (2009). He is serving as Advisory Committee Chair for the Monette-Horwitz Trust and is the past president (2010) of the Western Region of the Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality. Born in Hollywood, raised in Santa Monica, Wilde has travelled many places in the world, but always come back to Our Village of The Angels. His life has been circuitous, taking him into paths untrodden, into radical sexualities and diverse spiritual practices. Other adventures include sexology conferences in Cuba and India, radical faerie gatherings and Old Guard traditions, trekking the Himalayas, observing days at a time of devotional silence, Buddhist monastery stays, and helping mid-wife people as they die.

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Dec 112014
 

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Author, activist, and veteran Kristin Beck joins me on Sex Out Loud this Friday, December 12th, at 8 pm ET / 5 pm PT to discuss her work as a US Navy Seal, transitioning after her military, and coming out as transgender to a worldwide audience with Anderson Cooper on CNN. We’ll discuss her documentary “Lady Valor” which has found success at film festivals across the country and her commitment to achieving true liberty through open service for transgender people in the US Military.

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Kristin Beck is an author, activist and veteran who served for 20 years, through 13 deployments, as a US Navy SEAL. In her military career, she distinguished herself with Special Operations Forces at SEAL Team One, SEAL Team Five, Naval Special Warfare Development Group (SEAL TEAM Six) and the Headquarters at SOCOM. She received the Bronze star with Valor, Purple Heart, Defense Meritorious Service Medal and many other awards. She retired in 2011 with the rank of Senior Chief and continued high-level security work for the US government, including the Pentagon. In a 2013 she appeared on CNN with Anderson Cooper and spoke about her life as transgender person beginning as a boy from a Christian family through her time in the SEALs. A follow on documentary with CNN “Lady Valor” has been seen by over 10 million Americans in the month of September 2014. She works daily with Pentagon and Government Officials toward true liberty and equality within the ranks of the Department of Defense.

 

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Oct 072014
 

Morgana maye

This Friday on Sex Out Loud, I interview professional dominant, counselor, and human sexuality consultant Dr. Morgana Maye. Her work as a Kink Counselor helps individuals, couples, and multi-partner relationships better understand and explore their desire. We’ll discuss navigating taboo kinks – any and all kinks are fair game for our discussion! – as well as issues concerning two-bottom or two-top households and how to come out to and find partners who will share your kink.

This week’s show is LIVE so call in with questions and comments at 1-866-472-5788, join the discussion on Facebook or Twitter, or e-mail me via tristan(at)puckerup.com and I’ll read them live on the air. Tune in to Sex Out Loud every Friday, you can listen along on your computer, tablet, or phone, find all the ways at SexOutLoudRadio.com!

Dr. Morgana Maye is a San Francisco-based professional dominant, counselor, and human sexuality consultant. She teaches people how to fully express their kinky desires without shame, and empowers them with the language and skills necessary to negotiate loving and lasting kink-positive relationships. Dr. Maye is the owner Maison de la Maitresse, San Francisco’s premiere boutique dungeon. She has both Master’s and Doctorate degrees in Clinical Psychology, with a post-doctoral specialty in forensics and working with sexual behavior problems. Her writing has appeared in Best American Erotica, Politically Inspired, and Sex for America, and she is the writer and host of the instructional video Whipsmart: A Good Vibrations Guide to Beginning S/M.

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Sep 252014
 

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Award-winning author Cecilia Tan joins me this Friday, September 26th live to talk about erotica, sensuality, BDSM, bisexuality, activism, and her latest book, Slow Satisfaction, the third novel in the Struck By Lightning trilogy. Tune in to Sex Out Loud every Friday, you can listen along on your computer, tablet, or phone, find all the ways at SexOutLoudRadio.com!

This week’s show is LIVE so call in with questions and comments at 1-866-472-5788, join the discussion on Facebook or Twitter, or e-mail me via tristan(at)puckerup.com and I’ll read them live on the air.

ceciliatan_133px_wideCecilia Tan is “simply one of the most important writers, editors, and innovators in contemporary American erotic literature,” according to Susie Bright. Her BDSM romance novel Slow Surrender (Hachette/Forever, 2013) won the RT Reviewers Choice Award in Erotic Romance. Tan is the author of many books, including the ground-breaking erotic short story collections Black Feathers (HarperCollins), White Flames (Running Press), and Edge Plays (Circlet Press), and the erotic romances Slow Surrender, Slow Seduction, and Slow Satisfaction (Hachette/Forever), The Prince’s Boy (Circlet Press), The Hot Streak (Riverdale Avenue Books), and the Magic University series (new editions forthcoming from Riverdale Avenue Books in October 2014). Her short stories have appeared in Ms. Magazine, Nerve, Best American Erotica, Asimov’s Science Fiction, and tons of other places.

Tan was inducted into the Saints & Sinners Hall of Fame for GLBT writers in 2010, was a recipient of the Lifetime Achievement Award from the National Leather Association in 2004, and won the inaugural Rose & Bay Awards for Best Fiction in 2010 for her crowdfunded web fiction serial Daron’s Guitar Chronicles. She holds a bachelors degree in cognitive and linguistic sciences from Brown and a masters in professional writing from Emerson. She lives in the Boston area with her lifelong partner corwin and three cats. Find out more at www.ceciliatan.com. Her current project is another BDSM contemporary romance series for Hachette/Grand Central/Forever Yours that — like Slow Surrender — will explore BDSM, rock stars, and fame.

Jul 222014
 

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This week’s guest on Sex Out Loud is Lisa Vandever: a producer and consultant with over twenty years of experience in film and television. She seized the unique opportunity to combine two of her overriding fixations, film and sexuality. Founded in 2003, CineKink recognizes and encourages the positive depiction of sexuality and kink in film and television, most visibly through its annual film festival, CineKink NYC. We’ll discuss media representations of alternative sexuality, visual depictions of kink, and the intersections of film and sexuality.

This week’s show is LIVE. Find out all the ways to listen here so you can call in with questions and comments at 1-866-472-5788, join the discussion on Facebook or Twitter, or e-mail me via tristan(at)puckerup.com and I’ll read them live on the air.

As co-founder and director of CineKink, an organization that recognizes and encourages the positive depiction of sexuality in film and television, Lisa Vandever curates and oversees an annual film festival and touring series, designed to promote and showcase such works. Billing itself as “the kinky film festival,” with offerings drawn from both the independent cinema world and the adult, works presented at CineKink, currently in its eleventh season, range from documentary to drama, comedy to experimental, slightly spicy to quite explicit–and everything in between. A producer and consultant with over twenty years of experience in film and television, Vandever was formerly the director of programming for a regional network of public television stations, worked as a development executive for two New York-based independent production companies and was associate producer of the Sundance award-winning feature film, “Songcatcher.”

Seizing the unique opportunity to combine two of her overriding fixations, film and sexuality, Vandever previously co-founded the New York S/M Film Festival, which ran 2000-2002. Over the years she has also consulted with media distributors on how to best reach sexuality communities, and has advised filmmakers on how to present their works to a wider market. In addition to serving on the board of directors of the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom, she also volunteered on its media committee, alerting community members to media presentations of alternative sexuality, and encouraging feedback. She has spoken several times on the intersection of film and sexuality at the prestigious SXSW conference, with additional appearances including the International Film Festival Summit, Film Festival Academy, DIY Convention, Sex 2.0, MomentumCon, CatyalystCon and Leather Leadership Conference. She is proud to have once stumped the panel as a guest during a round of “What’s My Fetish?” on the Radio Chick Show …and she probably watches a lot less porn than everyone seems to think she does.

Sex Out Loud airs every Friday at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET on the VoiceAmerica Variety channel. You can listen on your computer, phone, or tablet, find all the ways here!

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Jun 112014
 

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Logan Levkoff, PhD, sexuality educator, sexologist, and author talks to me this Friday on Sex Out Loud about designing sex ed programs, becoming an AASECT certified sex educator, and empowering children, adolescents, and adults to embrace their sexuality and challenge the impractical, and often unhealthy, messages that they are exposed to. She’ll talk about her latest book, “Got Teens? The Doctor Moms’ Guide to Sexuality, Social Media, and Other Adolescent Realities” and answer questions from listeners on how to navigate conversations with teens and the best ways to create sexually healthy adults.

This week’s show is LIVE. Find out all the ways to listen here so you can call in with questions and comments at 1-866-472-5788, join the discussion on Facebook or Twitter, or e-mail me via tristan(at)puckerup.com and I’ll read them live on the air.

Dr. Logan Levkoff is an internationally recognized expert on sexuality and relationships. She encourages honest conversation about sexuality and the role it plays in our culture. Dr. Levkoff makes it clear that sex and sexuality are not “dirty” words; she works to create an environment where people feel comfortable asking (and getting answers to) their most personal questions. Dr. Levkoff empowers children, adolescents, and adults to embrace their sexuality and challenge the impractical, and often unhealthy, messages that they are exposed to. As a thought leader in the field of human sexuality, Dr. Levkoff is a regular contributor to television shows including Good Morning America, The Today Show, The CBS Early Show, Nightline, Fox News Channel, and CNN. She is also the host of CafeMom’s show, Mom Ed: In the Bedroom. Dr. Levkoff is the author of three books: Got Teens? The Doctor Moms’ Guide to Sexuality, Social Media, and Other Adolescent Realities (Seal Press, 2014), Third Base Ain’t What it Used to Be: What Your Kids are Learning About Sex Today and How to Teach Them to Become Sexually Healthy Adults (Open Road Media, May 2012), and How to Get Your Wife to Have Sex with You (Good in Bed Publications, October 2011), She is also a contributor to the anthology, Fifty Writers on Fifty Shades (BenBella Books, November 2012) and ToughLove (Simon & Schuster, 2014). In addition to her own work, Dr. Levkoff is a trusted source for many publications and blogs for The Huffington Post. For over a decade, Dr. Levkoff has been teaching groups of all ages and from a variety of backgrounds. She has designed and implemented sexuality education programs, faculty development, and parent education in many secular and religious independent schools, universities, medical schools, and community organizations. Dr. Levkoff’s work with teens and parents has been profiled in numerous publications, including The New York Times. She is also on the faculty of the University of Michigan School of Social Work’s Sexual Health Certificate Program. Dr. Levkoff has been a spokesperson for Trojan, Trojan Vibrations, Trojan Lubricants and serves on the Trojan Sexual Health Advisory Council. She has also served as a spokesperson for The Art of Shaving, a joint project between Starbucks and Yahoo! Personals, Bertolli, Tupperware, and Sealy.

Logan Levkoff is an AASECT certified sex educator and has served on the AASECT Board of Directors. She received her Ph.D. in Human Sexuality, Marriage, and Family Life Education from New York University and an M.S. in Human Sexuality Education and a B.A. in English from the University of Pennsylvania. She lives in New York City with her husband, son, and daughter.

Sex Out Loud airs every Friday at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET on the VoiceAmerica Variety channel. You can listen on your computer, phone, or tablet, find all the ways here!

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May 202014
 

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This Friday on Sex Out Loud at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET, listen to my interview with performer Belle Knox, who became known in March 2013 as “the Duke University pornstar” after being outed by a classmate and then writing about that experience for xojane.com. Since then, Knox has appeared in many media outlets spreading a sex positive message and sex worker equality and this week on Sex Out Loud she talks to me about her experiences, answers my questions (and yours), and tells the story of how she became Belle Knox and what’s next for her.

Originally from Washington State, Belle Knox the sweet and petite 18-year-old XXX starlet entered the world of adult entertainment four months ago. With her fresh, beautiful face and adorable figure, Knox dove into the industry appearing in Reality Kings, Porn Pros, Teen Fidelity/Kelly Madison, Nubiles, Naughty America and X-Art. She has starred in FuckedHard 18, Naughty Cheerleaders 4 and Adam and Eve’s Real College Girls. The 18-year-old Duke University student and adult starlet became national headline news after being outed by a fellow classmate and writing a piece inspired by the experience in popular online magazine www.xojane.com. Since then she has appeared on national shows such as The View, The Independents, Dr. Drew, Piers Morgan and The Howard Stern Show. She has been written about in The Huffington Post, The NY Post, The Daily News, The NY Times and Rolling Stone Magazine.

Sex Out Loud airs every Friday at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET on the VoiceAmerica Variety channel. You can listen on your computer, phone, or tablet, find all the ways here!

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