Welcome!

 

My mission is to educate, empower, and entertain people of all genders and sexual orientations through my writing, lectures, workshops, books, and films.

I’m a sex-positive feminist who strongly believes that everyone deserves quality education, especially when it comes to sexuality. Abstinence-only sex education disempowers young people by withholding important information and safer sex resources from them, and studies show it is ineffective at reducing rates of teen sex, pregnancy, and sexually transmitted infections. People of all ages and all walks of life need comprehensive, accessible sex education. As a sex educator, I strive to create safe, nonjudgmental spaces where people can get honest, straightforward advice and answers to their questions.

As a feminist pornographer, I create erotic imagery that challenges, contradicts, and re-imagines dominant porn iconography. I prioritize female pleasure and orgasm and strive to diversify how sexuality is portrayed. I value the performers—as human beings and as professionals—and their significant contributions to the creative process. I let actors choose with whom they work, what they do, and what piece of their sexuality they’d like to share with the camera. This collaboration gives them an opportunity to participate in their own representation. Recognized by academic scholars and mainstream media, my work as a feminist in the adult industry is part of a growing movement of filmmakers and activists.

I want us to challenge mainstream media representations of sex and relationships, and how they distort what we think about ourselves and others. Everyone—and especially those of us who are gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, queer, gender variant, kinky, non-monogamous, polyamorous, and other sexual minorities—must confront the shame, guilt, and judgement that can shape or silence us.

We must confront society’s rigid constructions of sex and gender. Arm yourself with accurate sex education. Ignore what’s expected of you. Create relationships based in reality, not fairy tales. Explore your authentic desires, fantasies, and boundaries, and nurture them. Don’t strive to be normal—strive to be you.