Jun 182016
 
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Writer, artist & performer Lyric Seal aka Neve Be joins the show to talk about their work as an artist, performing in porn with Pink & White production, and their upcoming project, Diathesis a film that dances through the panic attacks of 3 queers of color, who are heroes in their own story.

Tune in to Sex Out Loud on Friday, June 17th at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET. Join the discussion on Twitter @SexOutLoudRadio, or e-mail questions and comments to tristan(at)puckerup.com and she’ll read them on the air. If you can’t call us live, leave a voicemail on the SOL Hotline: 323-SEX-8266. Call us with your questions, stories, comments, and requests — 24/7!

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Lyric Seal aka Neve Be was born and remains this densely packed little firestarting fireball creature, in certain lights, they resemble a seal. They grew up in the beautiful dirty Jerz, versed in bodies of water, forest flowers, and monster myths. Their first solos were choreographed in meadows, or sometimes nets of poison ivy or cement steps leading to backyards or heralding strip malls. They nuzzled, climbed, and imagined against imposed structure. Seal began dancing with Def Dance Jam in Harlem at the age eight and it was love as soon as they put hands and feet to wood brought up by drums. They’ve stuck to sets and stages ever since. Especially outside ones.

Seal received a liberal arts degree with concentrations in folk literature, disabled identity, and multimedia dance performance. Before and between that they were a crust punk with no eyebrows and creative interventions, like Amanda Palmer, or Whoopi Goldberg. They grew a second pair with the help of fairy ink because they were very very sensitive and patient.

Seal’s first tryst with San Francisco began in 2010 the last year that an all queer and trans people of color house was to be found in the Mission. Though they had traipsed it’s pink and green streets earlier, with their mom as a child, visiting her old home, the Haight. They thought that one day they would do and be something pink there. Their power chair, Gianna, is bright pink, the parts of them that are not deep clay brown or bone cream, are pink, and their favorite porn company to shoot for is Pink and White Productions. It is, often, a terribly rosy life.

Bay Area Accomplishments include: Falling hard for Oakland and getting loved back, in 2011. Making and growing a home, mobile enough to move with, the love part, the mobile home is next. Queer family. Punk roots expanded. Getting sweet real deep bonding time with their father, who moved to Santa Cruz from New Jersey, and had also lived in the Bay with their mom. (Having the best parents forever, an accomplishment related to emotional work, poetry, and occasionally place). Tourmate with Mangos with Chili to discover talent, resolve, electricity, friendship, community, boundaries, love. Columnist at maximumrocknroll magazine. Co-founder of the Blueberry Jam, an improvisational movement lab for women, queers, and gender non-conforming people. Sought after queer porn star, video ho, sex educator, panel pincher. Advice Columnist and Creator of the Disability Justice Infused Love Concept Slumber Party with Lyric Seal. Intern turned family member turned writer and collaborator and educator with Sins Invalid (Executive and Artistic Director, Patricia Berne). Writer, director, and star of three short films shot with Nikki Silver: Waiting for Beast (on Pinklabel.tv), White Fur (Periwinkle Cinema’s Hanky Code Movie Anthology and available on vimeo), and DIATHESIS: A Tale of Three Dancers, currently in production and fundraising!

With great earnest hope, they are relocating part of their queer family to join more queer and disability justice family, including their partner, in Seattle, where they will tweak their art and build home and wreak sunshine in the rain.

Seal’s performance mediums include but are not limited to: contemporary fusion dance, contact improv, burlesque, high gross art, stripping, drag, performance installation, performance terrorism, repertory theatre, political street theater, film acting, adult acting, physical theatre, movement therapy, rising speeches, ministry, juice, spit, face paint, rocks, sex crust, dragon’s nests, being someone else.

You can find their writing regularly in Everyday Feminism and maximumrocknroll (in print, son!), in the past in Coming Out Like a Porn Star edited by Jiz Lee, Curve Magazine, Harlot Magazine, Plentitude Magazine, Model View Culture, and in the future in the form of a book published by Threelmedia called Taking it Lying Down/Crawling Like an Animal: Bedtime Stories Told Down Thru My Body.

 

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Jun 032016
 

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Dr. Mireille Miller-Young returns to the show for a full hour talking about her award-winning book, A Taste for Brown Sugar, which boldly takes on representations of black women’s sexuality in the porn industry. It is based on Mireille Miller-Young’s extensive archival research and her interviews with dozens of women who have worked in the adult entertainment industry since the 1980s. The women share their thoughts about desire and eroticism, black women’s sexuality and representation, and ambition and the need to make ends meet. Miller-Young documents their interventions into the complicated history of black women’s sexuality, looking at individual choices, however small—a costume, a gesture, an improvised line—as small acts of resistance, of what she calls “illicit eroticism.”  Miller-Young wants the voices of black women sex workers heard, and the decisions they make, albeit often within material and industrial constraints, recognized as their own. Mireille and Tristan will be LIVE tonight, so call in and join the conversation! 866-472-5788

Tune in to Sex Out Loud this Friday, June 3rd at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET. Join the discussion on Twitter @SexOutLoudRadio, or e-mail me via tristan(at)puckerup.com and she’ll read them live. If you can’t call us live, leave a voicemail on the SOL Hotline: 323-SEX-8266. Call us with your questions, stories, comments, and requests — 24/7 and we’ll play it on the air!

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Mireille Miller-Young, Ph.D., is Associate Professor of Feminist Studies at University of California, Santa Barbara. She researches and teaches about race, gender, and sexuality in US history, popular and film cultures, and the sex industries. Her 2014 book, A Taste for Brown Sugar: Black Women in Pornography (Duke University Press), was awarded the Sara A. Whaley Prize by the National Women’s Studies Association and the John Hope Franklin Prize for Book of the Year by the American Studies Association. A former UC President’s Postdoctoral Fellow, Dr. Miller-Young was a co-convener of the Black Sexual Economies Project, a multi-year research scholar think tank at Washington University School of Law, and is a founder and convener of the New Sexualities Research Initiative at UC Santa Barbara. Dr. Miller-Young has published in numerous anthologies, academic journals, and news outlets including Blackness and Sexuality, Porn Archives, Sexualities, The New York Times, Ms., The Washington Post, and $pread, a sex worker magazine. With Constance Penley, Celine Parreñas Shimizu, and Tristan Taormino, she is an editor of The Feminist Porn Book: The Politics of Producing Pleasure (The Feminist Press, 2013), which was a finalist for the Lambda Literary Award for Best LGBT Anthology (2014).

May 272016
 

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Jacky St James returns to Sex Out Loud to talk about her new television series on Showtime. Submission is an American erotic mini-series created by Paul Fishbein and Jacky St. James. The show, starring Ashlynn Yennie and Skin Diamond, focuses on a woman exploring BDSM for the first time. Jacky talks about directing erotic scenes, why all women should dabble in XXX, and inevitable 50 Shades of Grey comparisons.

Tune in to Sex Out Loud on Friday, May 27th at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET. Join the discussion on Twitter @SexOutLoudRadio, or e-mail questions and comments to tristan(at)puckerup.com and she’ll read them on the air. If you can’t call us live, leave a voicemail on the SOL Hotline: 323-SEX-8266. Call us with your questions, stories, comments, and requests — 24/7!

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Jacky St. James is an award-winning writer and director in the adult entertainment industry dubbed by Salon.com as “the Woman Who Conquered Porn.” She’s guest lectured at UCLA, UCSB, and been featured in Slate, The Huffington Post, The Daily Beast, The Examiner, and many more.

 

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May 202016
 

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This year the Leather Archives & Museum is celebrating 25 years of compiling leather history and memorabilia for historical, educational and research purposes. Executive Director Rick Storer joins the show to talk about the work of the museum, the history of BDSM, and the importance of preserving sexual culture and memorabilia. Rick and Tristan will be talking LIVE, so you can call in and join the conversation! 866-472-5788

Tune in to Sex Out Loud on Friday, May 20th at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET. Join the discussion on Twitter @SexOutLoudRadio, or e-mail questions and comments to tristan(at)puckerup.com and she’ll read them on the air. If you can’t call us live, leave a voicemail on the SOL Hotline: 323-SEX-8266. Call us with your questions, stories, comments, and requests — 24/7!

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Rick Storer is the Executive Director of the Leather Archives & Museum. He holds a Masters of Library Science degree from Dominican University. He has presented papers for library, art, museum and sexuality conferences and enjoys working in the arena where these two subjects overlap. His research interests lie in copyright and privacy issues as related to sexuality and GLBT archives. During his tenure in the corporate world, he worked on a team to successfully bring domestic partner benefits to a large insurance company. Rick lives in the Chicago area with his husband, Jeffrey Storer.

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May 132016
 

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Tina Horn spends an hour live with Tristan in the studio talking dirty: learn the modern etiquette of swiping, Skyping ,and selfies with the digital dirty talk expert whose new book is called Sexting: The Grownups’ Little Book Of Sex Tips for Getting Dirty Digitally.  She’ll teach how to assert what you want, and listen to what your partners want so you can make each other happy and fulfilled.

Tune in Friday, May 13th at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET to hear this show premiere or listen to it on demand as a podcast. Join the discussion on Twitter where we livetweet each week. Sex Out Loud airs every Friday, you can listen along on your computer, tablet, or phone, find all the ways at SexOutLoudRadio.com If you missed any part of the episode or want to listen again, you can listen to every episode on demand here. Got a question or comment for the show? Call the SOL Hotline: 323-SEX-8266. Leave us your questions, stories, comments, and requests — 24/7 and we’ll play it on the air! (Or you can stay anonymous and ask Tristan to read it aloud.)

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Tina Horn is a writer, educator, interdisciplinary media-maker, queer punk, and true karaoke believer. Currently, she produces and hosts Why Are People Into That?!, a popular podcast that demystifies desire. she is the author of Love Not Given Lightly, a collection of nonfiction stories about bay area sex workers; and a new guide to dirty digital ethics and etiquette called sexting.  In 2010, she co-created, produced, and directed a video project called QueerPorn.Tv, which won two Feminist Porn Awards (Honored Website 2011 & Most Diverse Cast 2012) and a Cinekink Award (Best Experimental Short), in addition to being nominated for an AVN (Best Alternative Website).

Tina holds an MFA in Creative Nonfiction Writing from Sarah Lawrence College and is a LAMBA Literary Fellow. Her writing appears in Unshaven, Girl Sex 101, six Cleis Press anthologies including Best Sex Writing 2015; she has also blogged for Vice, the Rumpus, The Toast, Nerve, Helix Queer Performance Network, 4UMag, Kinky, Fleshbot and Gaga Stigmata, and published articles in The Believer, AORTA, and Whore! magazines. She is the Creative Director of the sex culture focused imprint threel media, editing books by Jiz Lee and Siouxsie Q.

Over the past five years, Tina’s lectures on dirty talk, sex worker self care, and spanking have been featured at a variety of international venues, including The New School, Good Vibrations, Red Umbrella Diaries, Perverts Put Out, Lesbian Sex Mafia, Dark Odyssey, and the Feminist Porn Conference at University of Toronto.

She has been a consultant on subjects of kink lifestyle, sex worker rights, and feminist pornography on HuffPost Live, The Washington Post, National Geographic, and at UC Berkeley and Evergreen College.

Born in Northern California, Tina now lives in Manhattan.

Apr 292016
 

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Author and educator Lauren Marie Fleming talks about her new book: Bawdy Love: 10 Steps to Profoundly Loving Your Body. She’ll talk about the Bawdy Love Manifesto, combating negative messages, and taking the guilty out of pleasure. Fleming invites us to join her revolution, where every body is worthy, no body is shameful, and we can proudly declare that we deserve decadence, joy, and fun in our lives. Lauren and Tristan will be talking LIVE, so you can call in and join the conversation! 866-472-5788

Tune in to Sex Out Loud on Friday, April 29th at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET. Join the discussion on Twitter @SexOutLoudRadio, or e-mail questions and comments to tristan(at)puckerup.com and she’ll read them on the air. If you can’t call us live, leave a voicemail on the SOL Hotline: 323-SEX-8266. Call us with your questions, stories, comments, and requests — 24/7!

How to listen to Sex Out Loud radio?
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Lauren Marie Fleming takes the guilty out of pleasure. An audacious storyteller, she wrote the book Bawdy Love: 10 Steps to Profoundly Loving Your Body, hosts the Bawdy Love podcast, and leads the #BawdyLove revolution, a movement to banish shame and fill our lives with decadence, delight, and joy. From crowds of thousands to groups of six, Lauren facilitates life-changing conversations with her motivational speaking, intensive workshops, and intimate retreats. Through her work, Lauren has helped people all over the globe silence their inner critics, connect with their deeper Truths, and feel comfortable and confident in their bodies. For six years, Lauren ran the acclaimed sex blog Queerie Bradshaw, but now you can find her writing, programs, and products at LaurenMarieFleming.com.

Apr 222016
 

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We know you love The Pleasure Chest as much as we do! This week we welcome Sarah Tomchesson, Head of Business Operations, who will pull back the curtain to share 45 years of history from The Pleasure Chest and go behind-the-scenes of selling sex toys. Sarah talks about how she found her calling in sex ed, what free workshops are happening at their stores around the country, and she also helps Tristan answer listener questions on pegging and what happens when you don’t like the way your butthole looks.

Tune in Friday, April 22nd at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET to hear this show premiere or listen to it on demand as a podcast. Join the discussion on Twitter where we livetweet each week. Sex Out Loud airs every Friday, you can listen along on your computer, tablet, or phone, find all the ways at SexOutLoudRadio.com If you missed any part of the episode or want to listen again, you can listen to every episode on demand here. Got a question or comment for the show? Call the SOL Hotline: 323-SEX-8266. Leave us your questions, stories, comments, and requests — 24/7 and we’ll play it on the air! (Or you can stay anonymous and ask Tristan to read it aloud.)

How to listen to Sex Out Loud radio?
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Since 1971, The Pleasure Chest has helped pioneer a sex positive culture, with an emphasis on education, enjoyment and inclusivity. For 45 years, Pleasure Chest has been a resource for the best products and the most accurate information to make your life sexier. With five stores in New York, Chicago and Los Angeles as well as online, Pleasure Chest offers every customer a specialized experience in a judgment-free environment, a huge variety of toys and a regular series of free workshops to promote healthy, pleasurable and fulfilling sex for everyone. Sarah Tomchesson has been with the Pleasure Chest for over 7 years and has seen the company through a number of exciting endeavors including launching a totally free, weekly education series, which heavily features Pleasure Chest-trained educators, developing and producing SexIsBack.com a sexual storytelling campaign, and opening the first new locations in 30 years.

 

Apr 152016
 

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I am so thrilled to have the amazing Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore on the show this week! Sycamore is author of the memoir, The End of San Francisco, winner of a 2014 Lambda Literary Award, and has edited numerous provocative anthologies including Nobody Passes, That’s Revolting and the more recent, Why Are Faggots So Afraid of Faggots? We talk radical queer culture, resisting assimilation and binary, survival strategies, sex work, and rejecting the rules of conformity. Find out why The Stranger calls her ‘a gender-fucking tower of pure pulsing purple fabulous.’

Tune in Friday, April 15th at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET to hear this show premiere or listen to it on demand as a podcast. Join the discussion on Twitter where we livetweet each week. Sex Out Loud airs every Friday, you can listen along on your computer, tablet, or phone, find all the ways at SexOutLoudRadio.com If you missed any part of the episode or want to listen again, you can listen to every episode on demand here. Got a question or comment for the show? Call the SOL Hotline: 323-SEX-8266. Leave us your questions, stories, comments, and requests — 24/7 and we’ll play it on the air! (Or you can stay anonymous and ask Tristan to read it aloud.)

Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore is a flaming queen dedicated to keeping the fire burning. She’s the author of a memoir and two novels, and the editor of five nonfiction anthologies. Her most recent title, The End of San Francisco,  won a 2014 Lambda Literary Award, and her most recent anthology, Why Are Faggots So Afraid of Faggots?: Flaming Challenges to Masculinity, Objectification, and the Desire to Conform, was an American Library Association Stonewall Honor Book. She recently finished a mesmerizing third novel, Sketchtasy, and hopefully the right publisher will snatch it up soon.

Apr 062016
 

Tune in for an hour with Sandra Daugherty aka Sex Nerd Sandra from the popular Nerdist podcast, live in the studio with Tristan Taormino. They’re talking oral sex advice, funny sex stories, sexual and gender fluidity, and how to do a sexual act for the first time while setting yourself up for success. Questions from listeners will also be taken. – Sandra and Tristan will be together in our LA studio LIVE, so call in and join the conversation! 866-472-5788

Tune in to Sex Out Loud this Friday, April 8th at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET. Join the discussion on Twitter @SexOutLoudRadio, or e-mail me via tristan(at)puckerup.com and she’ll read them live. If you can’t call us live, leave a voicemail on the SOL Hotline: 323-SEX-8266. Call us with your questions, stories, comments, and requests — 24/7 and we’ll play it on the air!

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Sandra Daugherty punches sexual shame in the face. Also known as Sex Nerd Sandra, she speaks, educates, hosts, podcasts and pundits. Her sex-positive teaching methods include heavy doses of physical comedy, playful insight and delightful factoids. Known the world over for her Nerdist Industries podcast, “Sex Nerd Sandra,” its loyal listenership (almost 13 million downloads) is vocal about Sandra’s impact, describing her as “inspiring” with “contagious enthusiasm” and an “awesome nerd-like ability that [she’s] not afraid to show.” Sandra can be seen on Fusion TV (The Search for Sexy), The Young Turks (Think Tank, Common Room, The Point) and weekly in your earholes. Born and raised in Los Angeles, she is an avid traveler and lover of big questions. Find her on Twitter @SexNerdSandra.

Mar 272016
 

This Friday, Tristan Taormino welcomes Jaclyn Friedman to Sex Out Loud – they will be together in our LA studio LIVE, so call in and join the conversation! 866-472-5788

JFheadshotLB-1-300x199Jaclyn Friedman is a writer, speaker and activist, and creator of the hit books Yes Means Yes: Visions of Female Sexual Power and a World Without Rape (one of Publishers’ Weekly’s Top 100 Books of 2009, and #11 on Ms. Magazine’s Top 100 Feminist Nonfiction of All Time list) and What You Really Really Want: The Smart Girl’s Shame-Free Guide to Sex & Safety. Her popular podcast, Unscrewed, is paving new paths to sexual liberation.

As an undergraduate, Jaclyn thought she was too smart to become a victim of sexual assault – until another student proved her wrong. That experience eventually led her to become a student and instructor of IMPACT safety training. At IMPACT, she helped bring safety skills to the communities which most need them, including gang-involved high school students and women transitioning out of abusive relationships.

Friedman’s work has popularized the “yes means yes” standard of sexual consent that is quickly becoming law on many US campuses. She has also helped redefine the concept of “healthy sexuality,” starting with two landmark pieces: the interview “F*cking While Feminist” and the highly personal polemic “My Sluthood, Myself,” which together inspired thousands of responses and explorations across the blogosphere and beyond. Her insistence that authentic sexual liberation is a necessary condition to end the systemic sexualization and violation of women led Lyn Mikel Brown (Co-founder of SPARK and Professor of Education and Women’s, Gender, and Sexuality Studies, Colby College) to call her “this generation’s version of Dr. Ruth.”

Friedman is a popular speaker on campuses and at conferences across the U.S. and beyond. She has been a guest on the Today Show, Nightline, PBS News Hour, the Melissa Harris-Perry Show, and numerous other radio and television shows, and her commentary has appeared in outlets including CNN, Time, The Washington Post, The Nation, Jezebel and The Huffington Post. She is a SheSource expert and a Progressive Women’s Voices alumna, and was named one of 2009’s Top 40 Progressive Leaders Under 40 by the New Leaders Council. Friedman is a founder and the former Executive Director of Women, Action & the Media, where she led the successful #FBrape campaign to apply Facebook’s hate-speech ban to content that promotes gender-based violence. Friedman also holds an MFA in creative writing from Emerson College.

Tune in Friday, April 1 at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET to hear this show. Join the discussion on Twitter where we livetweet each week. Sex Out Loud airs every Friday, you can listen along on your computer, tablet, or phone, find all the ways at SexOutLoudRadio.com. If you missed any part of the episode or want to listen again, you can listen to every episode on demand here.