Oct 222014
 

cyndi darnell

This week I’m so excited to bring sex educator, counselor, and therapist Cyndi Darnell to Sex Out Loud. We talk about her work, her obsession with erotic anatomy, and her new project The Atlas of Erotic Anatomy and Arousal. We discuss the difference between Australian audiences and American ones, but also the elements of sexuality that are universal no matter where she teaches. Sex Out Loud airs every Friday at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET on the VoiceAmerica Variety channel. You can listen on your computer, phone, or tablet, find all the ways here!

Cyndi Darnell is one of Australia’s leading sex therapists and sex educators with over 20 years experience studying human sexuality from the clinical to the esoteric. Her work and commentary has been sought for media around the country including Channel 10’s The Project, ABC Radio National, Triple J, Triple R, JOY 94.9, ABC Melbourne with Jon Faine, The Age, Sydney Morning Herald, Cosmopolitan Magazine, Mamamia and both Aust. Women’s & Men’s Health Magazines. She was also a co-creator of six educational podcasts with Catherine Deveny on popular topics in adult sex education. She was the founder and host of Pleasure Forum Australia which ran in Melbourne from 2010- 2013. Cyndi has also hosted events and spoke at The Wheeler Centre, Victoria University, University of Melbourne, Family Planning Victoria, Arts Access Victoria , Aust. College of Applied Psychology, and she was a panelist with the prestigious Sydney ‘‘Women Say Something’’ event.

Cyndi counsels individuals, couples & beyond on issues related to sex and relationships from her practice in Melbourne and globally via Skype. She runs comprehensive and entertaining educational seminars and workshops on adult sexuality, pleasure & relationships both in Australia and globally to demystify sex and emphasize pleasure. Cyndi is known for her capacity to offer practical information, esoteric insight and emotional warmth & reassurance all wrapped up in light -hearted Australian humor and fabulous footwear. She is uniquely placed to be able to bridge the world of sexology from a variety of perspectives and approaches that embrace, understand and challenge the diversity of human sexuality.

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Oct 142014
 

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This Friday at 8 pm ET / 5 pm PT on SexOutLoudRadio.com, writer, publisher & storyteller S. Bear Bergman talks about his mission to produce feminist, LGBTQ-positive, racially-diverse children’s books. He discusses why it’s important to have gender independent and genderqueer kids in books, plus we discuss the current trans state of the union. Sex Out Loud airs every Friday at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET on the VoiceAmerica Variety channel. You can listen on your computer, phone, or tablet, find all the ways here!

Award-winning writer, educator and storyteller S. Bear Bergman is the author or editor of six books as well as the founder and publisher of Flamingo Rampant, a children’s press focused on feminist, LGBTQ-positive, racially-diverse children’s books. His most recent book Blood, Marriage, Wine, & Glitter made several 10 Best of 2014 lists and was a finalist for the Lambda Literary Award. A much loved speaker and storyteller at universities and festivals alike, Bergman’s signature blend of wit and warmth brings all the people to the yard regardless of their sex designation, gender identity, or gender expression, which he would like to remind you are not at all the same thing.

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Oct 072014
 

Morgana maye

This Friday on Sex Out Loud, I interview professional dominant, counselor, and human sexuality consultant Dr. Morgana Maye. Her work as a Kink Counselor helps individuals, couples, and multi-partner relationships better understand and explore their desire. We’ll discuss navigating taboo kinks – any and all kinks are fair game for our discussion! – as well as issues concerning two-bottom or two-top households and how to come out to and find partners who will share your kink.

This week’s show is LIVE so call in with questions and comments at 1-866-472-5788, join the discussion on Facebook or Twitter, or e-mail me via tristan(at)puckerup.com and I’ll read them live on the air. Tune in to Sex Out Loud every Friday, you can listen along on your computer, tablet, or phone, find all the ways at SexOutLoudRadio.com!

Dr. Morgana Maye is a San Francisco-based professional dominant, counselor, and human sexuality consultant. She teaches people how to fully express their kinky desires without shame, and empowers them with the language and skills necessary to negotiate loving and lasting kink-positive relationships. Dr. Maye is the owner Maison de la Maitresse, San Francisco’s premiere boutique dungeon. She has both Master’s and Doctorate degrees in Clinical Psychology, with a post-doctoral specialty in forensics and working with sexual behavior problems. Her writing has appeared in Best American Erotica, Politically Inspired, and Sex for America, and she is the writer and host of the instructional video Whipsmart: A Good Vibrations Guide to Beginning S/M.

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Oct 022014
 

less pants more science

This week for Sex Out Loud, I talk to the co-founders of Orgasmatronics, Inc. Doctor X. Treme & Alexandra Ars. Their recent crowdsourcing campaign is bringing the first touch response bionic strap-on vibrator, the Ambrosia Vibe. They’ll discuss the process of bringing the revolutionary Ambrosia Vibe to the market, how they create innovative toys, and their inspirational motto “Less Pants, More Science.”

Sex Out Loud airs every Friday at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET on the VoiceAmerica Variety channel. You can listen on your computer, phone, or tablet, find all the ways here!

DrXT_mediumWhen Doctor X. Treme was a child he dreamed of becoming an inventor. His aspirations led him to the field of physics and his studies earned him a PhD from Yale University. After graduation the Doctor took a job in a government lab. He spent the next six years erecting quantum measurement devices for low temperature physics. While the work was engaging, Treme found it constricting and oppressive, like wearing pants. He grew weary of the military’s involvement in his field. To the Doctor, applied physics was about more than advanced weaponry. One fateful night, his wife made a simple request. “Build me a sex machine?” she asked. And just like that, Doctor X. Treme quit his government job, took off his pants, and got to work. These days, the Doctor dedicates his time to coupling science and technology in the bedroom. He researches ways to use physical principles to enhance the lives of (extra)ordinary people.

 
alexandra2-smAlexandra Ars manages the brand, designs the web and brews the tea for Orgasmatronics, Inc. She co-founded the company with Doctor X. Treme. Alexandra used to be a graphic designer for a jewelry company, several bands and, for a little while, Mozilla. But when Dr. X. elucidated his vision of a queer sex toy company while they waded in a freezing river she knew she had to help make the dream a reality. She is a kinky, polyamorous, bespectacled drummer. She believes socks and scarves are the sexiest items of clothing especially when worn exclusively. Alexandra loves the Ambrosia Vibe bionic strap-on for it’s simplicity and body-hacking and gender-bending possibilities.

 

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Sep 252014
 

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Award-winning author Cecilia Tan joins me this Friday, September 26th live to talk about erotica, sensuality, BDSM, bisexuality, activism, and her latest book, Slow Satisfaction, the third novel in the Struck By Lightning trilogy. Tune in to Sex Out Loud every Friday, you can listen along on your computer, tablet, or phone, find all the ways at SexOutLoudRadio.com!

This week’s show is LIVE so call in with questions and comments at 1-866-472-5788, join the discussion on Facebook or Twitter, or e-mail me via tristan(at)puckerup.com and I’ll read them live on the air.

ceciliatan_133px_wideCecilia Tan is “simply one of the most important writers, editors, and innovators in contemporary American erotic literature,” according to Susie Bright. Her BDSM romance novel Slow Surrender (Hachette/Forever, 2013) won the RT Reviewers Choice Award in Erotic Romance. Tan is the author of many books, including the ground-breaking erotic short story collections Black Feathers (HarperCollins), White Flames (Running Press), and Edge Plays (Circlet Press), and the erotic romances Slow Surrender, Slow Seduction, and Slow Satisfaction (Hachette/Forever), The Prince’s Boy (Circlet Press), The Hot Streak (Riverdale Avenue Books), and the Magic University series (new editions forthcoming from Riverdale Avenue Books in October 2014). Her short stories have appeared in Ms. Magazine, Nerve, Best American Erotica, Asimov’s Science Fiction, and tons of other places.

Tan was inducted into the Saints & Sinners Hall of Fame for GLBT writers in 2010, was a recipient of the Lifetime Achievement Award from the National Leather Association in 2004, and won the inaugural Rose & Bay Awards for Best Fiction in 2010 for her crowdfunded web fiction serial Daron’s Guitar Chronicles. She holds a bachelors degree in cognitive and linguistic sciences from Brown and a masters in professional writing from Emerson. She lives in the Boston area with her lifelong partner corwin and three cats. Find out more at www.ceciliatan.com. Her current project is another BDSM contemporary romance series for Hachette/Grand Central/Forever Yours that — like Slow Surrender — will explore BDSM, rock stars, and fame.

Sep 192014
 

cooper beckettSex Out Loud radio is BACK! After a brief hiatus of summer reruns, I’m live tomorrow night at 8 pm ET / 5 pm talking with Cooper Beckett host of the popular podcast “Life on the Swingset” (and who you also know as the voice announcer of my show). Cooper will give us an update on what happened at CatalystCon West last week. We’ll also discuss progressive swinging and swingers, orgy etiquette, and answer listener questions about polyamory and non-monogamy.

This week’s show is LIVE – and I’ve missed talking to my listeners, so I hope you’re ready to talk to me. Find out all the ways to listen here so you can call in with questions and comments at 1-866-472-5788, join the discussion on Facebook or Twitter, or e-mail me via tristan(at)puckerup.com and I’ll read them live on the air.

Cooper Beckett‘s life isn’t like other people’s. When he’s not writing or podcasting at Life on the Swingset, he’s living it up as an evangelical swinger drifting toward poly, spreading the good word that “sharing is caring.” He truly believes that a good many people would be open to exploring the fringe of human sexuality and relationships, knocking down the borders between orientations, and experiencing the most basic of human rights: great sex, if only they were told it’s okay to do so. He has resolved to change the world, even if it’s only one couple at a time.

Sex Out Loud airs every Friday at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET on the VoiceAmerica Variety channel. You can listen on your computer, phone, or tablet, find all the ways here!

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Jul 302014
 

partners in passion

MarkandPatricia high resThis Friday at 8 pm ET / 5 pm PT on Sex Out Loud radio, Mark A. Michaels and Patricia Johnson return to the show to discuss their new book, Partners In Passion: A Guide to Great Sex, Emotional Intimacy and Long-term Love. We’ll talk about non-monogamy, communication, passionate long-term relationships, and the controversy around their recent article on Alternet, “Life-Long Sexual Monogamy Just Isn’t Natural“. They’ll also join in answering listener questions.

Mark A. Michaels and Patricia Johnson are a devoted married couple. They have been creative collaborators – teaching and writing about sexuality and Tantra together – since 1999. Michaels and Johnson are the authors of Partners in Passion (Cleis 2014), Great Sex Made Simple, Tantra for Erotic Empowerment, and The Essence of Tantric Sexuality. Their books have garnered numerous awards: Independent Publishing (IPPY), ForeWord Reviews, and USA Book News Best Books, among others. They are also the creators of the meditation CD set Ananda Nidra: Blissful Sleep. To support the pleasure-positive community in New York, they co-founded Pleasure Salon in 2007. www.MichaelsandJohnson.com

Sex Out Loud airs every Friday at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET on the VoiceAmerica Variety channel. You can listen on your computer, phone, or tablet, find all the ways here!

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Jul 222014
 

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This week’s guest on Sex Out Loud is Lisa Vandever: a producer and consultant with over twenty years of experience in film and television. She seized the unique opportunity to combine two of her overriding fixations, film and sexuality. Founded in 2003, CineKink recognizes and encourages the positive depiction of sexuality and kink in film and television, most visibly through its annual film festival, CineKink NYC. We’ll discuss media representations of alternative sexuality, visual depictions of kink, and the intersections of film and sexuality.

This week’s show is LIVE. Find out all the ways to listen here so you can call in with questions and comments at 1-866-472-5788, join the discussion on Facebook or Twitter, or e-mail me via tristan(at)puckerup.com and I’ll read them live on the air.

As co-founder and director of CineKink, an organization that recognizes and encourages the positive depiction of sexuality in film and television, Lisa Vandever curates and oversees an annual film festival and touring series, designed to promote and showcase such works. Billing itself as “the kinky film festival,” with offerings drawn from both the independent cinema world and the adult, works presented at CineKink, currently in its eleventh season, range from documentary to drama, comedy to experimental, slightly spicy to quite explicit–and everything in between. A producer and consultant with over twenty years of experience in film and television, Vandever was formerly the director of programming for a regional network of public television stations, worked as a development executive for two New York-based independent production companies and was associate producer of the Sundance award-winning feature film, “Songcatcher.”

Seizing the unique opportunity to combine two of her overriding fixations, film and sexuality, Vandever previously co-founded the New York S/M Film Festival, which ran 2000-2002. Over the years she has also consulted with media distributors on how to best reach sexuality communities, and has advised filmmakers on how to present their works to a wider market. In addition to serving on the board of directors of the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom, she also volunteered on its media committee, alerting community members to media presentations of alternative sexuality, and encouraging feedback. She has spoken several times on the intersection of film and sexuality at the prestigious SXSW conference, with additional appearances including the International Film Festival Summit, Film Festival Academy, DIY Convention, Sex 2.0, MomentumCon, CatyalystCon and Leather Leadership Conference. She is proud to have once stumped the panel as a guest during a round of “What’s My Fetish?” on the Radio Chick Show …and she probably watches a lot less porn than everyone seems to think she does.

Sex Out Loud airs every Friday at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET on the VoiceAmerica Variety channel. You can listen on your computer, phone, or tablet, find all the ways here!

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Jul 162014
 

James Deen

Kelly Shibari

This week’s episode of Sex Out Loud features TWO of today’s hottest performers in the adult industry. You know James Deen from the 4,000 scenes he’s performed in, his appearance in the mainstream film “The Canyons” or perhaps his internet series “James Deen Loves Food.” I talk with Deen about his popularity and why he’s so good at his job. Then, Kelly Shibari is on live talking about her recent Penthouse Forum cover shoot, her appearance on Margaret Cho’d podcast, and what’s next for the stereotype-breaking tour-de-force. Tune in this Friday July 18th at 8 pm ET / 5 pm PT to catch this episode live, you don’t want to miss it! Listen on your phone, computer, or tablet, find all the ways at SexOutLoudRadio.com. My interview with James Deen was pre-recorded, but you can call in with questions and comments for Kelly Shibari at 1-866-472-5788, join the discussion on Facebook or Twitter, or e-mail me via tristan(at)puckerup.com and I’ll read them live on the air.

Since the age of 18, James Deen’s boy-next-door good looks helped him carve out a niche within the adult industry. Over 4,000 scenes later and Deen is now considered the top male porn star in the world. Deen is the youngest ever to earn Male Performer of the Year honors at the AVN, XBIZ, and XRCO awards shows. He is highly lauded within the adult industry with numerous award wins steadily throughout his career. Deen’s accomplishments extend far beyond the adult industry, with mainstream reporters chronicling his popularity as he continues to break down societal barriers. Popular female-oriented website Jezebel.com often reports on Deen’s large female fan-base, calling him the “permanent crush of all straight ladydom.” In 2012, Hollywood screenwriter Bret Easton Ellis and director Paul Schrader cast Deen opposite Lindsay Lohan in the feature film “The Canyons” which premiered internationally at the Venice Film Festival with Deen in attendance.

From her background in design and construction in mainstream film and television production, to performing in front of the camera as the sexually charged figurehead for chubby Asian girls everywhere, Kelly Shibari is a stereotype-breaking tour-de-force. Holding the distinct honor of being the only plus-sized performer ever molded for a Fleshlight, Kelly is also the face of harness company SpareParts Hardwear®’s plus size line, and made sexy pop culture media site Fleshbot’s Top Ten Crush Object List for 2013. Her self-produced, self-marketed DVD, Kelly Shibari is Overloaded, was nominated for both XBIZ and AVN, not just for the DVD itself but also for its marketing campaign. Kelly was named 2013 BBW Performer of the Year at EXXXOTICA’s fan-based awards, “The Fannys,” and also named Best BBW Performer at the 2013 NightMoves Awards. Most recently, Kelly made history as the first-ever plus size model ever to grace the cover of Penthouse Magazine’s Penthouse Forum.

Sex Out Loud airs every Friday at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET on the VoiceAmerica Variety channel. You can listen on your computer, phone, or tablet, find all the ways here!

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Jul 092014
 

candida royalle

candida royalleVeronica HartThis Friday, July 11th at 8 pm ET / 5 pm PT on Sex Out Loud, I welcome back author, visionary, and entrepreneur Candida Royalle. Candida will discuss her newest project with award-winning Canadian filmmaker Sheona McDonald, “While You Were Gone: the Untold Story of Candida Royalle“, as well as the unprecedented longevity of the sales of her Femme film line; the three new products from her sex toy line, Natural Contours, coming out in a few months; and how she’s helping release and distribute the work of other women, beginning with filmmaker Petra Joy. Jane Hamilton (aka Veronica Hart) will also join the conversation with Royalle to discuss how they both recently received a Doctorate in Human Sexuality from the Institute for the Advanced Study of Human Sexuality for their life’s work. After a long and distinguished career in adult movies, working on both sides of the camera, Jane Hamilton now uses her expertise to educate women in the U.S. and China on issues of pleasure, aging and self-esteem.

This week’s show is LIVE. Find out all the ways to listen here so you can call in with questions and comments at 1-866-472-5788, join the discussion on Facebook or Twitter, or e-mail me via tristan(at)puckerup.com and I’ll read them live on the air.

In 1984, Candida Royalle came up with the idea to produce adult erotica from a woman’s perspective. The mainstream porn industry scoffed at the idea, claiming “It can’t be done.” This only fuelled her determination.

She knew they were wrong.

Three decades later, her line of 18 features continues to bring in sales revenues and Candida Royalle is hailed as a pioneer in women’s erotica.

As Royalle’s work grew in popularity, she became a media darling, appearing on talk shows from Phil Donahue to Anderson Cooper to Tyra Banks; and written up across the globe – the Times of London, the New York Times, Time Magazine, Glamour, Marie Claire – too many to list.

The international sexology community embraced her work for its egalitarian depiction of “positive sexual role modeling” and she was the first adult film producer to be invited in to membership by the American Association of Sex Educators, Counsellors and Therapists (AASECT). She’s become a sought-after speaker, lecturing at the Smithsonian Institute, the American Psychiatric Association’s national conference, the World Congress on Sexology, and many more sexuality conferences and universities including Princeton, Columbia, Wellesley College and New York University.
In June, 2014, Royalle received an honorary Doctorate in Human Sexuality for her life’s work from the Institute for the Advanced Study of Human Sexuality.

Building on the success of her films, and her work on female sexual empowerment and pleasure, Royalle partnered with Dutch industrial designer Jandirk Groet, and together they created the Natural Contours® line of high-style, discreet ergonomically designed personal massagers. The line debuted in 1999 and turned the world of sex toys on its head, showcasing vibrators as a “mainstream must-have” and raising the bar for all who followed.

In October 2004, Royalle authored her first book, How to Tell a Naked Man What to Do, (Simon & Schuster/Fireside). In 2006 she launched Femme Chocolat®, created to provide high quality intelligent erotica for the largely underserved non-caucasian market.

As pornography for women and couples grows in popularity, Candida continues to raise the bar. She is currently distributing the work of other feminist pornographers including European director, Petra Joy.

Royalle’s life has never been conventional. The daughter of an accomplished professional jazz drummer, she trained and performed in music, dance and art, attending New York’s High School of Art and Design, Parsons School of Design, and the City University of New York, where she was active in the women’s movement of the late ’60′s and early ’70′s. After a move West to San Francisco, she got involved with some of the original members of the infamous Cockettes, including the late Divine, to create avant garde jazz and theater productions.

In 1974, looking to finance her unconventional lifestyle, she entered the world of erotica as an adult performer and acted in more than twenty feature films. For some, this choice may have been seen as a dead end. But for Candida Royalle, this bold decision would shape the rest of her life.

At every fork in the road, Candida has chosen the path less traveled and, in so doing, has challenged herself, raised the bar and found a new way forward”.

They say “it can’t be done” and she says “just watch me!”.

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VERONICA HART aka Jane Hamilton

Jane Hamilton received her Doctorate in Human Sexuality from the Institute for the Advanced Study of Human Sexuality in San Francisco, California, and her B.A. in Theatrical Arts from the University of Nevada, Las Vegas. She worked as the New Media Director for the Erotic Heritage Museum in Las Vegas, Nevada. She teaches sexuality and intimacy for YuNa’s company D’Eros in China and works with California Exotic Novelties writing their point of sale videos.

Jane has an extensive background in the field of sexuality. She was an award winning and highly respected performer in adult movies in the late70s and early 80s performing under the name Veronica Hart. Jane has also appeared in mainstream movies, television and stage.

Jane has produced many features including those of multi-award winning director Michael Ninn for VCA (Video Company of America). She has also produced and directed over thirty of her own award winning features. Currently she works with James Avalon as a production manager for the “Sweet Sinner” line of videos from Mile High Media.

Jane co-wrote “Hot Spots” a 1994 erotic directory with long-time collaborator Dr. Ava Cadell, an IASHS graduate and founder of the Loveology University. Jane, an inductee in numerous “Halls of Fame”, has two grown sons, Christopher and Michael, and is in a fabulous relationship, now reunited with her high-school sweetheart, Stanley Clawson.

She is a member of Club 90, a long standing support group of women who started as performers in the adult business including Candida Royalle, Annie Sprinkle, Veronica Vera and Gloria Leonard (who passed on earlier this year).

Catalyst Con was the catalyst that inspired her to commit her primary focus of study and production on love and sex for couples after the age of forty.