Mar 182016


Tonight’s episode celebrates the book Coming Out Like a Porn Star: Essays on Pornography, Protection, and Privacy. Hailed as one of the “Best Sex Books of 2015” by Reason Magazine, this pivotal book is the largest published collection of essays written by porn professionals about their industry. Three contributors – Lorelei Lee, James Darling, and Milcah Halili Orbacedo – join us to read from their essays and talk about the book’s release.

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lorelei-091Lorelei Lee has been an adult film performer since 2000 and a director since 2009.  Her writing has appeared in Salon, The Rumpus, Wired, Denver Quarterly, The Los Angeles Review of Books, and elsewhere. She is a contributor to The Feminist Porn Book and the cowriter of About Cherry, distributed by IFC Films. You can find her tweeting about politics and books @MissLoreleiLee, and about naked people @XOXOLoreleiLee.

jamesdarlingbedJames Darling is a bay area based trans adult performer, sex educator and director. James was included on the Trans 100 for his work in the adult industry, two time Transgender Erotica Awards FTM Performer of the year, Feminist Porn Awards Heartthrob of the Year and has been nominated numerous times at AVN, XBiz, and Cybersocket as a performer and director. Darling’s rise in porn began with his performance debut on, and continued with queer and trans porn studios, including T-Wood Pictures, TROUBLEfilms, Alternadudes and Buck Angel Entertainment. In 2012 James launched, one of the first all FTM porn membership sites and has since released four feature length films. His work has been featured internationally at film festivals, universities and conferences on topics related to trans issues, sex worker rights and privacy. You can find more of James Darling’s adventures on Twitter and Tumblr at JamesDarlingxxx.

Milcah Halili OrbacedoMilcah Halili Orbacedo is a writer and performer. Their writing has appeared on The Rumpus, Tits and Sass, Witch Craft Mag, Breakthrough, and Vice. Most of their adult film work can be found at They are obsessed with their work-in-progress memoir, Sisterhood, meditations on their intimate writer and pornographer friends. Follow Milcah on Twitter @SlutSmartSoul.

Sep 172012

Join me this Friday on Sex Out Loud as I talk to Stephen Elliott and Lorelei Lee, co-writers of the new film About Cherry, which Stephen Elliott also directed. About Cherry explores the journey of an 18 year old into the world of BDSM pornography in San Francisco. Stephen will talk about his first time directing and what it was like to work with an all star cast that includes Heather Graham, James Franco, Lili Taylor, and Dev Patel. Lorelei will reveal how her work as a porn performer and Stephen’s experiences as a former sex worker informed the script. Both writers will answer critics of the film and discuss about the politics of pornography. Plus, hear about shooting the film at the studios, why they love San Francisco, and the role the city plays in the movie.

Stephen Elliott is the author of seven books including the memoir The Adderall Diaries and the novel Happy Baby. He founded the online literary magazine The Rumpus. Cherry is his directorial debut.

Lorelei Lee has worked as a performer and director in the adult film industry since 1999. She has an MFA in Fiction from New York University and has taught writing at NYU, at the San Francisco Center for Sex and Culture, and in private workshops. Her writing has appeared or is forthcoming in Transfer, $pread Magazine, Salon, The Rumpus, and Denver Quarterly, as well as in the anthologies Hos, Hookers, Call Girls, and Rent Boys, Feminist Porn Studies, and Off the Set. Along with Stephen Elliot, she is the cowriter of the independent film About Cherry, which premiered at the Berlin International Film Festival and will be in theaters in September, 2012. She has toured nationally with the Sex Workers’ Art Show, is an alumni of the RADAR Lab, and is a Literary Death Match Champion. She writes with playwright and performer Erin Markey for the blog I Deserve This, readable at She is currently working on her first novel.