Jun 182016
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Writer, artist & performer Lyric Seal aka Neve Be joins the show to talk about their work as an artist, performing in porn with Pink & White production, and their upcoming project, Diathesis a film that dances through the panic attacks of 3 queers of color, who are heroes in their own story.

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Lyric Seal aka Neve Be was born and remains this densely packed little firestarting fireball creature, in certain lights, they resemble a seal. They grew up in the beautiful dirty Jerz, versed in bodies of water, forest flowers, and monster myths. Their first solos were choreographed in meadows, or sometimes nets of poison ivy or cement steps leading to backyards or heralding strip malls. They nuzzled, climbed, and imagined against imposed structure. Seal began dancing with Def Dance Jam in Harlem at the age eight and it was love as soon as they put hands and feet to wood brought up by drums. They’ve stuck to sets and stages ever since. Especially outside ones.

Seal received a liberal arts degree with concentrations in folk literature, disabled identity, and multimedia dance performance. Before and between that they were a crust punk with no eyebrows and creative interventions, like Amanda Palmer, or Whoopi Goldberg. They grew a second pair with the help of fairy ink because they were very very sensitive and patient.

Seal’s first tryst with San Francisco began in 2010 the last year that an all queer and trans people of color house was to be found in the Mission. Though they had traipsed it’s pink and green streets earlier, with their mom as a child, visiting her old home, the Haight. They thought that one day they would do and be something pink there. Their power chair, Gianna, is bright pink, the parts of them that are not deep clay brown or bone cream, are pink, and their favorite porn company to shoot for is Pink and White Productions. It is, often, a terribly rosy life.

Bay Area Accomplishments include: Falling hard for Oakland and getting loved back, in 2011. Making and growing a home, mobile enough to move with, the love part, the mobile home is next. Queer family. Punk roots expanded. Getting sweet real deep bonding time with their father, who moved to Santa Cruz from New Jersey, and had also lived in the Bay with their mom. (Having the best parents forever, an accomplishment related to emotional work, poetry, and occasionally place). Tourmate with Mangos with Chili to discover talent, resolve, electricity, friendship, community, boundaries, love. Columnist at maximumrocknroll magazine. Co-founder of the Blueberry Jam, an improvisational movement lab for women, queers, and gender non-conforming people. Sought after queer porn star, video ho, sex educator, panel pincher. Advice Columnist and Creator of the Disability Justice Infused Love Concept Slumber Party with Lyric Seal. Intern turned family member turned writer and collaborator and educator with Sins Invalid (Executive and Artistic Director, Patricia Berne). Writer, director, and star of three short films shot with Nikki Silver: Waiting for Beast (on Pinklabel.tv), White Fur (Periwinkle Cinema’s Hanky Code Movie Anthology and available on vimeo), and DIATHESIS: A Tale of Three Dancers, currently in production and fundraising!

With great earnest hope, they are relocating part of their queer family to join more queer and disability justice family, including their partner, in Seattle, where they will tweak their art and build home and wreak sunshine in the rain.

Seal’s performance mediums include but are not limited to: contemporary fusion dance, contact improv, burlesque, high gross art, stripping, drag, performance installation, performance terrorism, repertory theatre, political street theater, film acting, adult acting, physical theatre, movement therapy, rising speeches, ministry, juice, spit, face paint, rocks, sex crust, dragon’s nests, being someone else.

You can find their writing regularly in Everyday Feminism and maximumrocknroll (in print, son!), in the past in Coming Out Like a Porn Star edited by Jiz Lee, Curve Magazine, Harlot Magazine, Plentitude Magazine, Model View Culture, and in the future in the form of a book published by Threelmedia called Taking it Lying Down/Crawling Like an Animal: Bedtime Stories Told Down Thru My Body.


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Feb 052016


This Friday Willy Wilkinson, MPH, writer and public health consultant joins us to discuss his memoir: Born on the Edge of Race and Gender: A Voice for Cultural Competency. Wilkinson, a mixed heritage, Asian American trans man and social movement leader has been advocating for marginalized populations since the early days of the HIV/AIDS epidemic. Poetic, humorous, and profoundly provocative, this compelling memoir explores the ambiguity and complexity of Willy’s intersectional experience with race, gender, sexuality, disability, class, and parenthood—within a larger cultural competency, public health, and policy advocacy framework.

Tune in to Sex Out Loud this Friday, January 29th at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET. This week’s show is LIVE so call in to Voice America with questions and comments at 1-866-472-5788, join the discussion on Twitter @SexOutLoudRadio, or e-mail me via tristan(at)puckerup.com and I’ll read them live on the air. If you can’t call us live, leave a voicemail on the SOL Hotline: 323-SEX-8266. Call us with your questions, stories, comments, and requests — 24/7 and we’ll play it on the air!

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DSC_0437Willy Wilkinson, MPH is an award-winning, Asian American, transgender writer, public health consultant, cultural competency trainer, public speaker, and spoken word performer. A dynamic and engaging presenter who is recognized widely for his expertise in transgender issues, he has provided training, consultation services, and keynote speeches for hundreds of community health organizations, educational institutions, and businesses on how to provide equal access for LGBTQ populations.

Willy is the author of the new book Born on the Edge of Race and Gender: A Voice for Cultural Competency, which transforms the memoir genre into a cultural competency tool, and uses the power of storytelling to illuminate transgender social, legislative, policy, and public health issues. The first book by a trans man of color in nearly a decade, this acclaimed new work celebrates complexities, challenges, and sometimes humorous experiences at the intersections of race, gender, disability, class, sexuality, and parenthood. Willy has written for numerous periodicals, such as the San Francisco Chronicle, the Advocate, the Huffington Post, and Asian Week. His work has appeared in journals such as Transgender Studies Quarterly, and numerous anthologies, including Trans Bodies, Trans Selves and Manning Up: Transsexual Men on Finding Brotherhood, Family, and Themselves. The Lambda Literary Review has described his writing as “highly evocative.”

In addition to cultural competency training, Willy assists organizations with curriculum and materials development, action planning, strategic planning, policy development, qualitative research, needs assessment, evaluation, and risk management. He was the lead consultant at the California statewide Community Alliance for Culturally and Linguistically Appropriate Services, as well as a number of statewide technical assistance contracts. He provided LGBT training nationwide for navigators conducting enrollment for health insurance under the Affordable Care Act, a project of Out2Enroll and Center for American Progress, in partnership with the White House and the Department of Health and Human Services.

Willy has been advocating for marginalized populations since the early days of the HIV/AIDS epidemic. He has worked extensively with communities of color, families, sex workers, substance users, youth, and people with disabilities. As the first Asian and first transgender community health outreach worker providing street-based HIV education and crisis intervention for sex workers and drug users in San Francisco’s Tenderloin District, Willy pioneered an outreach model that addressed the unique needs of Asians and Pacific Islanders. He worked on the first large-scale research project on the transgender community, and developed the first HIV prevention program for trans men who have sex with other men. He was a key organizer of the API lesbian movement of the ‘80s, and organized the first peer support programs for Asian transmasculine individuals and people of color on the female-to-male spectrum. Willy launched the Health Care Access Project at Transgender Law Center, the first program in the nation to address trans health disparities through provider training, “know your rights” workshops for community members, and advocacy for trans-competent care.

Willy served as a founding board member for both Transgender Law Center and Asian & Pacific Islander Wellness Center, and on numerous advisory boards and committees. He earned a Masters in Public Health in Community Health Education from UC Berkeley, and a BA in Women’s Studies from UC Santa Cruz.

Willy is the recipient of a National Lesbian and Gay Journalists Association award, and the Transgender Law Center Vanguard Award, and is recognized on the Trans 100. He is the first transgender person to receive the Asian and Pacific Islander Queer Women and Transgender Community Phoenix Award. He lives in Oakland, California with his three vibrant young children. Learn more at www.willywilkinson.com.

Dec 112015


Today I welcome to the show Leah Lakshmi Piepzna-Samarasinha, queer disabled femme of color writer, performance artist, educator and author of the new book “Dirty River“. This passionate, riveting memoir is a mixtape of dreams and nightmares, of immigration court lineups and queer South Asian dance nights; it is an intensely personal road map and an intersectional, tragicomic tale that reveals how a disabled queer woman of colour and abuse survivor navigates the dirty river of the not-so-distant past and, as the subtitle suggests, “dreams her way home.” This interview and discussion will be happening live!

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Leah Lakshmi Piepzna-Samarasinha is a queer disabled femme writer, performance artist and educator of Burgher/Tamil Sri Lankan and Irish/Roma ascent.  The author of the Lambda Award-winning Love Cake,  Dirty River,  Bodymap and Consensual Genocide and co-editor with Ching-In Chen and Jai Dulani of The Revolution Starts At Home: Confronting Intimate Violence in Activist Communities, her writings on femme of color and Sri Lankan identities, survivorhood, and healing, disability and transformative justice have appeared in the anthologies Octavia’s Brood, Dear Sister, Letters Lived, Undoing Border Imperialism, Stay Solid, Persistence: Still Butch and Femme, Yes Means Yes, Visible: A Femmethology, Homelands, Colonize This, We Don’t Need Another Wave, Bitchfest, Without a Net, Dangerous Families, Brazen Femme, Femme and A Girl’s Guide to Taking Over The World.  She is the co-founder of Mangos With Chili, North America’s touring queer and trans people of color cabaret, a lead artist with the disability justice incubator Sins Invalid and co-founder of Toronto’s Asian Arts Freedom School. In 2010 she was named one of the Feminist Press’ 40 Feminists Under 40 Shaping the Future and she is a 2013 Autostraddle Hot 105 member.   She lives between Toronto, unceded Three Fires Confederacy Territories and Seattle, unceded Duwamish territories, with the love of her life and her friend family.