Apr 222016
 

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We know you love The Pleasure Chest as much as we do! This week we welcome Sarah Tomchesson, Head of Business Operations, who will pull back the curtain to share 45 years of history from The Pleasure Chest and go behind-the-scenes of selling sex toys. Sarah talks about how she found her calling in sex ed, what free workshops are happening at their stores around the country, and she also helps Tristan answer listener questions on pegging and what happens when you don’t like the way your butthole looks.

Tune in Friday, April 22nd at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET to hear this show premiere or listen to it on demand as a podcast. Join the discussion on Twitter where we livetweet each week. Sex Out Loud airs every Friday, you can listen along on your computer, tablet, or phone, find all the ways at SexOutLoudRadio.com If you missed any part of the episode or want to listen again, you can listen to every episode on demand here. Got a question or comment for the show? Call the SOL Hotline: 323-SEX-8266. Leave us your questions, stories, comments, and requests — 24/7 and we’ll play it on the air! (Or you can stay anonymous and ask Tristan to read it aloud.)

How to listen to Sex Out Loud radio?
~ Click on this link when the show starts at 5pm PT/8pm ET (or the next day to listen on demand!)
~ Download the VoiceAmerica app and tune in to the Variety Channel on Friday
~ Subscribe to the podcast on iTunes or Stitcher

Since 1971, The Pleasure Chest has helped pioneer a sex positive culture, with an emphasis on education, enjoyment and inclusivity. For 45 years, Pleasure Chest has been a resource for the best products and the most accurate information to make your life sexier. With five stores in New York, Chicago and Los Angeles as well as online, Pleasure Chest offers every customer a specialized experience in a judgment-free environment, a huge variety of toys and a regular series of free workshops to promote healthy, pleasurable and fulfilling sex for everyone. Sarah Tomchesson has been with the Pleasure Chest for over 7 years and has seen the company through a number of exciting endeavors including launching a totally free, weekly education series, which heavily features Pleasure Chest-trained educators, developing and producing SexIsBack.com a sexual storytelling campaign, and opening the first new locations in 30 years.

 

Mar 252016
 
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Ignacio Rivera – activist, writer, educator, filmmaker, performance artist and mother – returns to Sex Out Loud after being one of our first guests in 2012. Ignacio has spoken publicly about being a survivor and sex worker, and how the elimination of sex/sex education coupled with patriarchy, capitalism and homophobia have had a damaging effect on society. They are a 2016 Just Beginnings Collaborative Fellow and currently working on The Heal Project, a campaign to help create dialogue and encourage intentional, proactive sex positivity for survivors of sexual abuse.

Tune in to Sex Out Loud this Friday, March 25th at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET. This week’s show is LIVE so call in to Voice America with questions and comments at 1-866-472-5788, join the discussion on Twitter @SexOutLoudRadio, or e-mail me via tristan(at)puckerup.com and I’ll read them live on the air. If you can’t call us live, leave a voicemail on the SOL Hotline: 323-SEX-8266. Call us with your questions, stories, comments, and requests — 24/7 and we’ll play it on the air!

ignacio-2Ignacio Rivera is a Queer, Trans, Two-Spirit, Black-Boricua Taíno who prefers the gender-neutral pronoun “they.” Ignacio has spoken nationally and internationally on racism, sexism, LGBTQ issues, anti-oppression, anti-violence, sexual liberation, multi-issue organizing and more. Ignacio’s work has manifested itself through skits, one-person shows, poetry, lectures, workshops, and experimental film. Ignacio is the founder of Poly Patao Productions, sporadically blogs on WhatTheySaidBlog.com, is one of the founding board members of Queers for Economic Justice as well as one of the 2016 Just Beginnings Collaborative Fellows. Just Beginnings Collaborative (JBC) is a movement building platform designed to initiate, cultivate, and fund strategic efforts to end child sexual abuse.

http://heal2end.com
http://www.IgnacioGRivera.com
http://whattheysaidblog.com

Dec 262015
 

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On New Year’s Day, we’re doing a rebroadcast of one of Tristan’s favorite episodes. In this special edition of the show, recorded at CatalystCon West 2015, sex educators Cindy Lee Alves, Anaín Bjorkquist, and Aida Manduley talk about their work with the Women of Color Sexual Health Network (WOCSHN). We talk about respectability politics, advancing racial justice in sex education, and expanding awareness of how race intersects with sexuality. Find out what people are not talking about in the field of sexuality as well as tips for white educators who want to be allies and take a more intersectional approach to their work.

FaceCindy Lee Alves, M.Ed is a doctoral candidate at Widener University’s Center for Sexuality Studies, where she also earned her Master’s in Education. Her research interests include sexual orientation, gender, pleasure, and intersectionality. Currently, Cindy teaches human sexuality courses at various colleges in NY and NJ, as well as guest lectures and provides workshops for adults and young people.

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Aida Manduley is an award-winning bilingual powerhouse trained as a social worker, sexuality educator, and nonprofit management professional. Hailing from Puerto Rico and with firm roots in LGBTQ activism, she regularly blogs about social justice issues and has presented across North America on a variety of sexuality topics and their intersections with issues such as digital literacy and anti-racism. Aida’s currently pursuing her Master’s of Social Work at Boston University—with a focus on aging populations—and holds a B.A. in Gender and Sexuality Studies from Brown University. Her primary affiliations are with the Women of Color Sexual Health Network, where she serves on the executive committee, and The Center for Sexual Pleasure & Health, where she has worked since 2010 and now acts as a consultant. Past projects include sexual health and LGBTQ work at a domestic violence agency, crisis-response with victims of assault, and leadership on a number of national and regional coalitions on HIV prevention, sexuality education, and LGBTQ anti-violence.

Anaín Bjorkquist is a speaker, certified sex educator, sex + wellness coach and published erotica writer. Her life’s purpose is to serve women as a companion and guide on the journey from yearning to thanainbjorkquistriving. Anaín’s mission is to help women ditch perfection for pleasure. Her writing, weekly podcast Sex Love Joy and live workshops teach women how to consciously let go, trust their intuition and embody turn on. Anaín is dedicated to bringing fierce women together because the best learning and personal growth happens within intimate groups of women sharing their experiences. She’s ready to teach you the art of Orgasmic Self Love over at anainbjorkquist.com

 

Tune in Friday, January 1 at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET to hear this show premiere. Join the discussion on Twitter where we livetweet each week. Sex Out Loud airs every Friday, you can listen along on your computer, tablet, or phone, find all the ways at SexOutLoudRadio.com. If you missed any part of the episode or want to listen again, you can listen to every episode on demand here.

 

 

 

Dec 172015
 

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How many African-American sexologist do you know? Frenchie Davis is one of the first and I was lucky enough to see her in person at the Sex Down South conference and I can’t wait for you all to meet her. Frenchie is a capacity consultant who does workshops and sex talk events and loves working with community, religious, and political organizations to help them engage and embrace sex-positive sexuality. She maintains a full plate while completing her M. Ed of Human Sexuality at Widener University, the top accredited Human Sexuality graduate and doctoral program in the United Sates. Frenchie Davis has been the celebrated host and producer of her ever popular and edge cutting sexuality talk show titled “Libido Talk” on WBAI 99.5 FM of New York City. This Friday we talk live about Black sexuality, respectability politics, how erotic poetry has inspired her and more!

Tune in to Sex Out Loud this Friday, December 18th at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET. This week’s show is LIVE so call in to Voice America with questions and comments at 1-866-472-5788, join the discussion on Twitter @SexOutLoudRadio, or e-mail me via tristan(at)puckerup.com and I’ll read them live on the air. Tune in to Sex Out Loud every Friday, you can listen along on your computer, tablet, or phone, find all the ways at SexOutLoudRadio.com!

Frenchie Davis is an authority on Human Sexuality with a focus on the African-American community. She combines her love and expertise of social services, education, and pop-culture to Entertain, Educate and Enhance the emotional and sexiological intelligence of her audiences. She has an extensive history in social services and built her expertise through HIV/AIDS advocacy, managing crisis shelters for battered women and their children and community outreach. Many got to know Frenchie through her debut appearance on HBO’s Def Poetry Jam in 2003 when she performed an erotic poem from her book titled: Not From Between My Thighs. Frenchie became one of the first African-American poets to be sold at the first Museum of Sex in New York City. Now Frenchie has a consultant company, Libido Talk. Frenchie works both nationally and internationally through workshops, lectures, blogging and TV appearances and also produced an edge cutting sexuality talk show, “Libido Talk” on WBAI 99.5 FM of New York City for 3 years.

On the fun side, Frenchie was penned the Erotic Poet Princess; She went on to produce and host some of the most pivotal poetry events throughout the Detroit Metro City Area which included memorable nights like Sho’ You Right poetry series, and The Premiere which became a poetic house of national and international spoken word celebrities from Def Poetry Jam, Detroit Writer’s Guild, to The Last Poets. Frenchie elevated her household name when she appeared on season 3 of HBO’s Russell Simmons Presents Def Poetry Jam in 2003. Adding to her credit was her first self-published collection of poems, “Not From Between My Thighs”. Frenchie became one of the first African-American poets to be sold at the United States first Museum of Sex in New York City. Davis has lectured at more than 50 universities and colleges since her debut for HBO’s Def Poetry Jam. She’s shared stages and platforms with some of the most influential artist in the industry such as: Musiq, Trey Songz, Common, Mos Def, Talib Kweli, Jessica Care Moore, Sonia Sanchez, Jill Scott and the Def Poetry Jam family. Davis was a contributing editor and emotional health specialist to BE Magazine, Marymount Manhattan Newspaper and she continues to be embraced by stages overseas in London, United Kingdom; Holland; Germany and Canada. Frenchie Davis is ready to open a national dialogue about sexuality and enhance emotional intelligence wherever her message and voice can carry her. Want to learn more, check Frenchie out at www.LibidoTalk.com

Oct 212015
 

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In this special edition of the show, recorded at CatalystCon West 2015, sex educators Cindy Lee Alves, Anaín Bjorkquist, and Aida Manduley talk about their work with the Women of Color Sexual Health Network (WOCSHN). We talk about respectability politics, advancing racial justice in sex education, and expanding awareness of how race intersects with sexuality. Find out what people are not talking about in the field of sexuality as well as tips for white educators who want to be allies and take a more intersectional approach to their work.

Tune in Friday, October 23rd at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET to hear this show premiere. Join the discussion on Twitter where we livetweet each week. Sex Out Loud airs every Friday, you can listen along on your computer, tablet, or phone, find all the ways at SexOutLoudRadio.com.  If you missed any part of the episode or want to listen again, you can listen to every episode on demand here.

Cindy Lee Alves, M.Ed is a doctoral candidate at Widener University’s Center for Sexuality Studies, where she also earned her Master’s in Education. Her research interests include sexual orientation, gender, pleasure, and intersectionality. Currently, Cindy teaches human sexuality courses at various colleges in NY and NJ, as well as guest lectures and provides workshops for adults and young people.

Aida Manduley is an award-winning bilingual powerhouse trained as a social worker, sexuality educator, and nonprofit management professional. Hailing from Puerto Rico and with firm roots in LGBTQ activism, she regularly blogs about social justice issues and has presented across North America on a variety of sexuality topics and their intersections with issues such as digital literacy and anti-racism. Aida’s currently pursuing her Master’s of Social Work at Boston University—with a focus on aging populations—and holds a B.A. in Gender and Sexuality Studies from Brown University. Her primary affiliations are with the Women of Color Sexual Health Network, where she serves on the executive committee, and The Center for Sexual Pleasure & Health, where she has worked since 2010 and now acts as a consultant. Past projects include sexual health and LGBTQ work at a domestic violence agency, crisis-response with victims of assault, and leadership on a number of national and regional coalitions on HIV prevention, sexuality education, and LGBTQ anti-violence.

Anaín Bjorkquist is a speaker, certified sex educator, sex + wellness coach and published erotica writer. Her life’s purpose is to serve women as a companion and guide on the journey from yearning to thriving. Anaín’s mission is to help women ditch perfection for pleasure. Her writing, weekly podcast Sex Love Joy and live workshops teach women how to consciously let go, trust their intuition and embody turn on. Anaín is dedicated to bringing fierce women together because the best learning and personal growth happens within intimate groups of women sharing their experiences. She’s ready to teach you the art of Orgasmic Self Love over at anainbjorkquist.com

Sep 252015
 

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Give Me Sex Jesus is a new documentary that tells six personal stories of struggle from within the Evangelical community to remain sexually pure until marriage. This Friday September 25th on Sex Out Loud Radio, I discuss the film with the filmmakers Matt Barber and Brittany Machado and talk about the Purity movement, abstinence-only education, belief, faith and what happens when our bodies and desires do not behave. Watch the entire film for free on Vimeo here!

Tune in Friday, September 25th at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET to hear this show premiere. Join the discussion on Twitter where we livetweet each week. Sex Out Loud airs every Friday, you can listen along on your computer, tablet, or phone, find all the ways at SexOutLoudRadio.com.  If you missed any part of the episode or want to listen again, you can listen to every episode on demand here.

brittany machadoBrittany Machado is an academic-turned-filmmaker. Trained as a sociologist at the University of Chicago, she has transferred her love of storytelling and eye for detail into making film and television. She has produced a number of independent projects, including the webseries When Giants Fan Met Dodgers Fan (CSN Bay Area), and the feature documentary Give Me Sex Jesus. Brittany cut her teeth working in post-production on Grimm (NBC) and consulting for independent documentary projects. She currently works at Warner Bros. where she is the administrator for the Television Workshop and other creative development programs.

matt barberA Los Angeles-based director and producer, Matt Barber has established himself as an intuitive storyteller who is also known for his ability to find the right song for the right scene (and the right scene for the right song). Barber’s directing credits include: iZombie (the CW), Forever (ABC), The 100 (the CW), the NBC cultcomedy Chuck (on which he also served as an editor for five years), the awardwinning film Weathered (starring Tony Hale), and the feature documentary No Cameras Allowed (MTV.) Give Me Sex Jesus is his first venture into issue-based documentaries.

 

Aug 202015
 

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I am delighted to welcome educator and author Cory Silverberg to this week’s episode of Sex Out Loud. A sought after lecturer and workshop leader, a frequent contributor to TV/radio, and for over 10 years Silverberg has written the Sexuality Guide for About.com. In 2012 his book project became the most funded children’s book on Kickstarter and “What Makes a Baby” was published in 2013. This Friday we’ll talk about his newest book in his series, Sex Is a Funny Word: A Book About Bodies, Feelings, and You

Tune in to Sex Out Loud this Friday, August 21st at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET. This week’s show is LIVE so call in to Voice America with questions and comments at 1-866-472-5788, join the discussion on Twitter @SexOutLoudRadio, or e-mail me via tristan(at)puckerup.com and I’ll read them live on the air. Tune in to Sex Out Loud every Friday, you can listen along on your computer, tablet, or phone, find all the ways at SexOutLoudRadio.com!

Cory Silverberg‘s academic background is in education and counseling psychology (BA, hons., York University; M.Ed. Ontario Institute for Studies in Education at the University of Toronto). His research interests were in the areas of sexuality and disability and sexuality and attachment theory.

Since 1997 he has developed and facilitated workshops for hundreds of agencies and organizations serving both youth and adults across North America on a range of topics including sexuality and disability, sexual pleasure, sexual communication, sex toys, and sex and technology. Cory has also delivered keynotes, lectures, and interactive public talks for professional conferences and student groups.

In 1997 he co-founded the Come As You Are Co-operative, the world’s only co-operatively owned and operated sex toy store and sexual health resource, in Toronto, Canada. He is the co-author of the Ultimate Guide to Sex and Disability (Cleis Press, 2007) and since 2005 has been the Sexuality Guide for About.com.  In 2012 Cory developed a book project which became the most funded children’s book on Kickstarter, and subsequently signed a three book deal with Seven Stories Press to produce a series of inclusive children’s books about gender and sexuality.

Cory also worked as a consultant for both media and industry. For ten years he supervised research for SexTV, a multiple award winning, internationally syndicated documentary program that covers the topic of human sexuality around the globe, as well as being the sex toy wrangler for Talk Sex with Sue Johanson. He is a regular guest on Sex Matters, which airs on CTV, Canada’s largest television broadcaster, and a frequent contributor to local and national print, radio, and television media.

In addition to volunteering as the chairperson of the sexuality education certification committee for AASECT, Cory served on the board of ISIS, a nonprofit organization that combines new technologies with sexual health promotion and disease and violence prevention.

Jun 112015
 

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Every Tuesday the internet is treated to a new comic from Oh Joy Sex Toy (OJST), bringing reviews of everything that relates to sex, sexuality and the sex industry: “From toys to workshops to birth control and much more, no stone will be left unturned, no vibrator left unused, no nipple left unpinched.” Join me this week on Sex Out Loud when Erika Moen of OJST joins the show to discuss her career as an artist, the origin of her comics, the book released this year, and what’s coming up next for the site.

Tune in to Sex Out Loud this Friday, June 12th at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET. This week’s show is LIVE so call in to Voice America with questions and comments at 1-866-472-5788, join the discussion on Facebook or Twitter, or e-mail me via tristan(at)puckerup.com and I’ll read them live on the air. Tune in to Sex Out Loud every Friday, you can listen along on your computer, tablet, or phone, find all the ways at SexOutLoudRadio.com!

Erika Moenerika moen is a 16 years comics veteran and full-time cartoonist at Periscope Studio in Portland, OR. Together with her husband, Matthew Nolan, they create a new Oh Joy Sex Toy comic every Tuesday. Her work has a strong focus on sex, sexuality, gender, sex education, and sex positivity– plus a healthy dose of dick jokes and terrible puns.

Jun 052015
 

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This week on Sex Out Loud I am live with award-winning sex educator, writer, scholar, and activist, Bianca Laureano who is the co-founder of the Women of Color Sexual Health Network (WOCSHN); co-founder of The LatiNegr@s Project, and co-director of the film BLACK PERVERT. We talk about her journey to field of sexual education, coalition building among educators, the creation of WOCSHN, and her upcoming documentary project on race, kink, and community. We’ll also discuss negative and harmful stereotypes about community, culture, and sexuality and how she works to challenge them.

Tune in to Sex Out Loud this Friday, June 5th at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET. This week’s show is LIVE so call in to Voice America with questions and comments at 1-866-472-5788, join the discussion on Facebook or Twitter, or e-mail me via tristan(at)puckerup.com and I’ll read them live on the air. Tune in to Sex Out Loud every Friday, you can listen along on your computer, tablet, or phone, find all the ways at SexOutLoudRadio.com!

Bianca I Laureano is a first generation Puerto Rican who was born and raised in the Washington, DC metro area. The oldest daughter of an artist and educator, Bianca was raised in an activist environment that valued art in all its various and dynamic forms. At the beginning of high school Bianca’s parents encouraged her to become active in a youth led program called Raising Hispanic Academic Achievement, Inc. (RHAA), where she tutored and mentored Latin@ youth in the Washington, DC metro area. Bianca has been mentoring a young woman, Candy, for 17 years. Through RHAA Bianca developed critical skills and training as positive youth development was central to the program.  Beginning as a tutor with RHAA, Bianca quickly became a part of the youth leadership and began assisting with program planning. She not only tutored and mentored on Saturday mornings, she arranged guest speakers, field trips and eventually co-led the all-female Saturday School in Silver Spring, MD, where the focus was on providing Latinas a space of their own to excel and find affirmation.

Bianca attended the University of Maryland, College Park (UM) and graduated in 2000 with a Bachelor of Arts degree in Individual Studies: Women’s Health and Latino Communities.  While at UM Bianca was active in peer education and mentoring programs through the University Health Center and became the Assistant Coordinator for Sexual Health Programs. The summer of 2000 she spent in Xhualtez, Espita in the Yucatan working with one of the first government funded health centers that provides western trained physicians and indigenous Mayan healers as a part of holistic health care. Upon her return she attended New York University and received her Master of Arts degree in Human Sexuality Education in 2002.

After spending one year with the Child Welfare League of America as the Program Manager of Adolescent Sexuality, Pregnancy Prevention and Parenting, Bianca began working on her second Master of Arts degree at the University of Maryland, College Park in the Department of Women’s Studies. Bianca’s research areas include Latina feminisms, Puerto Rican studies, sexuality, youth and media culture. Her training in feminist theory and intersectionality were developed at the Consortium on Race, Gender & Ethnicity where she was a CrISP Fellow. In 2006 Bianca received her second Master of Arts degree in Women’s Studies where her focus included race and racialization, bodies, gender, and sexualities.

While at the UM, Bianca continued to be involved in direct action and activism with a grassroots not-for-profit organization called Visions in Feminism (ViF). ViF is a collective of activists who work to create a low-cost, accessible national conference devoted to creating a space to discuss complex topics facing modern feminism. During her last year in the Washington, DC metro area, Bianca became involved with a group of young professional women who were all devoted to eliminating cervical cancer through HPV education. Bianca became the Director of Sexual Health for Tamika and Friends, Inc., (T&F) in 2005 and worked to create peer education handbooks and training’s for people interested in having HPV (House Parties of fiVe) parties. T&F is one of the first organizations to focus on educating men and youth regarding HPV and cervical cancer and that provides technical assistance and survivor support.

Bianca is co-founder of the Women of Color Sexual Health Network (WOCSHN) and manages the WOCSHN tumblr page and social media/communication efforts; co-founder of The LatiNegr@s Project, and co-director of the film BLACK PERVERT.

Currently residing in New York City, Bianca lives in the Bronx and provides consultation, capacity building and training, and facilitation to organizations dedicated to helping youth reach their full potential. She enjoys live music and concerts, the independent movie scene, museums, a good flea market, traveling, reading, dancing to dope beats, the beach, and is a fierce karaoke performer.

Bianca has published one book and several articles. She has presented both locally and internationally on various topics concerning activism, Latin@ sexual health, feminisms, youth and Hip-Hop culture, Latin@s and race, curriculum development, and teaching. An award-winning sexologist, Bianca was awarded the 2010 Mujeres Destacadas Award by El Diario/La Prensa for her work in sexuality and Latin@ communities. Bianca is an instructor at a private college, a freelance writer, abortion doula, and radical educator.

May 152015
 

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This week on Sex Out Loud I’m live with educator, radio host, author and porn creator, Sophie Delancey. I talk with her about her award-winning TheArtOfTheBlowjob.com, a site devoted to beautiful videos and photos focused on sensual oral sex skills as well as a new educational video series. We’ll also get a preview of what’s to come on her new site, TheArtofCunnilingus.com. If you’ve ever had questions about oral sex, this is the show for you! The show will be live and taking audience questions.

Tune in Friday, May 15th at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET. This week’s show is LIVE so call in to Voice America with questions and comments at 1-866-472-5788, join the discussion on Facebook or Twitter, or e-mail me via tristan(at)puckerup.com and I’ll read them live on the air. Tune in to Sex Out Loud every Friday, you can listen along on your computer, tablet, or phone, find all the ways at SexOutLoudRadio.com!

Sophie Delancey is a porn creator and advocate devoted to spreading the message that porn can be both beautiful and ethical. She is the Vice President of a group of erotic websites including the Feminist Porn Award-winning website TheArtofBlowjob.com and the newly minted site TheArtofCunnilingus.com. She co-hosts a monthly sexy storytelling event in Toronto called Tell Me Something Good with Samantha Fraser at the Gladstone Hotel as well as the weekly Tell Me Something Good podcast on the Swingset.FM network. She is also one of the hosts of Sex City Radio on CIUT 89.5 FM. Sophie has written for numerous sexuality/porn sites, has appeared on many radio shows/podcasts and has spoken and taught workshops at numerous schools, conferences and events, including delivering papers at both editions of the Feminist Porn Conference. As an educator, her work focuses on porn literacy, porn and relationships, DIY porn, discovering and discussing desires, oral sex techniques and body positivity.