Dec 262015
 

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On New Year’s Day, we’re doing a rebroadcast of one of Tristan’s favorite episodes. In this special edition of the show, recorded at CatalystCon West 2015, sex educators Cindy Lee Alves, Anaín Bjorkquist, and Aida Manduley talk about their work with the Women of Color Sexual Health Network (WOCSHN). We talk about respectability politics, advancing racial justice in sex education, and expanding awareness of how race intersects with sexuality. Find out what people are not talking about in the field of sexuality as well as tips for white educators who want to be allies and take a more intersectional approach to their work.

FaceCindy Lee Alves, M.Ed is a doctoral candidate at Widener University’s Center for Sexuality Studies, where she also earned her Master’s in Education. Her research interests include sexual orientation, gender, pleasure, and intersectionality. Currently, Cindy teaches human sexuality courses at various colleges in NY and NJ, as well as guest lectures and provides workshops for adults and young people.

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Aida Manduley is an award-winning bilingual powerhouse trained as a social worker, sexuality educator, and nonprofit management professional. Hailing from Puerto Rico and with firm roots in LGBTQ activism, she regularly blogs about social justice issues and has presented across North America on a variety of sexuality topics and their intersections with issues such as digital literacy and anti-racism. Aida’s currently pursuing her Master’s of Social Work at Boston University—with a focus on aging populations—and holds a B.A. in Gender and Sexuality Studies from Brown University. Her primary affiliations are with the Women of Color Sexual Health Network, where she serves on the executive committee, and The Center for Sexual Pleasure & Health, where she has worked since 2010 and now acts as a consultant. Past projects include sexual health and LGBTQ work at a domestic violence agency, crisis-response with victims of assault, and leadership on a number of national and regional coalitions on HIV prevention, sexuality education, and LGBTQ anti-violence.

Anaín Bjorkquist is a speaker, certified sex educator, sex + wellness coach and published erotica writer. Her life’s purpose is to serve women as a companion and guide on the journey from yearning to thanainbjorkquistriving. Anaín’s mission is to help women ditch perfection for pleasure. Her writing, weekly podcast Sex Love Joy and live workshops teach women how to consciously let go, trust their intuition and embody turn on. Anaín is dedicated to bringing fierce women together because the best learning and personal growth happens within intimate groups of women sharing their experiences. She’s ready to teach you the art of Orgasmic Self Love over at anainbjorkquist.com

 

Tune in Friday, January 1 at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET to hear this show premiere. Join the discussion on Twitter where we livetweet each week. Sex Out Loud airs every Friday, you can listen along on your computer, tablet, or phone, find all the ways at SexOutLoudRadio.com. If you missed any part of the episode or want to listen again, you can listen to every episode on demand here.

 

 

 

Oct 212015
 

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In this special edition of the show, recorded at CatalystCon West 2015, sex educators Cindy Lee Alves, Anaín Bjorkquist, and Aida Manduley talk about their work with the Women of Color Sexual Health Network (WOCSHN). We talk about respectability politics, advancing racial justice in sex education, and expanding awareness of how race intersects with sexuality. Find out what people are not talking about in the field of sexuality as well as tips for white educators who want to be allies and take a more intersectional approach to their work.

Tune in Friday, October 23rd at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET to hear this show premiere. Join the discussion on Twitter where we livetweet each week. Sex Out Loud airs every Friday, you can listen along on your computer, tablet, or phone, find all the ways at SexOutLoudRadio.com.  If you missed any part of the episode or want to listen again, you can listen to every episode on demand here.

Cindy Lee Alves, M.Ed is a doctoral candidate at Widener University’s Center for Sexuality Studies, where she also earned her Master’s in Education. Her research interests include sexual orientation, gender, pleasure, and intersectionality. Currently, Cindy teaches human sexuality courses at various colleges in NY and NJ, as well as guest lectures and provides workshops for adults and young people.

Aida Manduley is an award-winning bilingual powerhouse trained as a social worker, sexuality educator, and nonprofit management professional. Hailing from Puerto Rico and with firm roots in LGBTQ activism, she regularly blogs about social justice issues and has presented across North America on a variety of sexuality topics and their intersections with issues such as digital literacy and anti-racism. Aida’s currently pursuing her Master’s of Social Work at Boston University—with a focus on aging populations—and holds a B.A. in Gender and Sexuality Studies from Brown University. Her primary affiliations are with the Women of Color Sexual Health Network, where she serves on the executive committee, and The Center for Sexual Pleasure & Health, where she has worked since 2010 and now acts as a consultant. Past projects include sexual health and LGBTQ work at a domestic violence agency, crisis-response with victims of assault, and leadership on a number of national and regional coalitions on HIV prevention, sexuality education, and LGBTQ anti-violence.

Anaín Bjorkquist is a speaker, certified sex educator, sex + wellness coach and published erotica writer. Her life’s purpose is to serve women as a companion and guide on the journey from yearning to thriving. Anaín’s mission is to help women ditch perfection for pleasure. Her writing, weekly podcast Sex Love Joy and live workshops teach women how to consciously let go, trust their intuition and embody turn on. Anaín is dedicated to bringing fierce women together because the best learning and personal growth happens within intimate groups of women sharing their experiences. She’s ready to teach you the art of Orgasmic Self Love over at anainbjorkquist.com

Oct 142015
 

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In my second interview from CatalystCon West 2015, I talk to Jenny Block, writer and sex expert whose latest book is “O Wow: Discovering Your Ultimate Orgasm“. We’ll discuss what exactly is an ultimate orgasm and what tips and strategies you can use, how to know your body, get in the zone and ultimately empower ourselves to receiving pleasure. This show was recorded in front of a live studio audience. I also feature more stories from listeners who have tested out Clone-A-Willy – this is that last week to save 10% off with checkout code SEXOUTLOUD.

Tune in Friday, October 16th at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET to hear this show premiere. Join the discussion on Twitter where we livetweet each week. Sex Out Loud airs every Friday, you can listen along on your computer, tablet, or phone, find all the ways at SexOutLoudRadio.com.  If you missed any part of the episode or want to listen again, you can listen to every episode on demand here.

jenny blockJenny Block, is a frequent contributor to a number of high-profile publications from Huffington Post to Playboy, and is the author of “O Wow! Discovering Your Ultimate Orgasm” and “Open: Love, Sex, and Life in an Open Marriage” (2008 Lambda Literary Award). She appears regularly on HuffPo Live, and the HuffPo Sex and Love Podcast. She holds both her BA and her MA in English from Virginia Commonwealth University and taught college composition for nearly ten years. Her work appears in and on huffingtonpost.com, Playboy.com, yourtango.com, American Way, Veranda, the Dallas Morning News, the Dallas Voice, edgedallas.com, literarymama.com, Spirit, chow.com, ellegirl.com, and many more. She is often called on as an expert on sex and women’s sexuality for yourtango.com, bustle.com, Woman’s Day Magazine, sheknows.com, and many others. Jenny has appeared on a variety of television and radio programs, including Nightline, Fox and Friends, The Glenn Beck Show, The Tyra Banks Show, Good Morning Texas, The Morning Show with Mike and Juliet, foxnews.com (online video), Playboy Radio, The Alan Colmes Show, The Young Turks, and BBC Radio.

Jun 192015
 

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This week on Sex Out Loud I’m featuring several guests who will tell you about amazing sex ed and play events happening across the country this summer that you’ll want to attend. From polyamory in Dallas to open dialogue in Burbank, plus a camping retreat for queers, get out your calendar and start planning your best summer….out loud!

Tune in to Sex Out Loud this Friday, June 19th at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET. This week’s show is LIVE so call in to Voice America with questions and comments at 1-866-472-5788, join the discussion on Facebook or Twitter, or e-mail me via tristan(at)puckerup.com and I’ll read them live on the air. Tune in to Sex Out Loud every Friday, you can listen along on your computer, tablet, or phone, find all the ways at SexOutLoudRadio.com!

amorous revoltChelsea Downs was born and raised in New York City. She is Biracial Black and Jewish, a chess player, sports & pop culture junkie who graduated from Hunter College High School and received a full scholarship to Colby College. Downs had a 6 year  tenure with Viacom including positions within MTV Networks, Comedy Central and Nicklodeon and is a co-Founder of New York Toy Collective, the largest and fastest growing adult toy manufacturing company on the east coast. NYTC offers a variety of hand made adult toysand they are the first and only adult toy manufacture to offer 3d scanning and replicas making it possible to create replicas.

me 2Ruby B Johnson received her Bachelors of Social Work in 2003 from Texas Women’s University and her Masters of Social Work in 2005 from the University of Texas at Arlington.  Since 2003, Ruby’s roles have included clinical practitioner, community and professional development educator, and graduate and under graduate adjunct professor. In private practice, her areas of expertise are substance use disorders, sex addiction, intimacy and love addiction, multi-cultural families and couples, SOGIE, polyamorous/non monogamous partnerships/families, and Kink/BDSM. Ruby Johnson provides therapeutic support, care, and intervention with lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, gender variant/non-binary, queer, and same gender loving communities. Currently, Ruby is in private practice at Vantage Point Counseling Services (www.vantagepointdallascounseling.com) and Inamorata LLC (www.inamorata.me).

ShawnShawn Chrisman is currently a practicing Licensed Professional Counselor in the state of Texas.  He received his clinical training with a Master’s in Counseling from Southern Methodist University, and is currently working towards his doctorate degree in Human Sexuality from Widener University. Shawn works with individuals and couples on sexuality-related issues, including addressing intimacy, sexual identity, gender dysphoria, sexual dysfunctions and other concerns.  Shawn also identifies as a kink-aware therapist and works with couples enjoying diverse relationship structures, such as open or polyamorous relationships.  Shawn is an active member of American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) and The Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality (SSSS).  He has also presented workshops for professionals and community members at local universities and organizations.

Dee Dennis (Catalyst Con)An activist in the field of sexuality, Dee Dennis started her career as a sex blogger, writing about the end of her marriage and beginning the next chapter of her life. During this transition, Dee discovered her passion for a healthy, fun, and shame-free sex life and set out to share this message with the world. Dee’s commitment to taking the conversation about sexuality offline and into the real world sparked an idea – a conference empowering people to come together and exchange ideas to further the discussion of sexuality. Her hope was to inspire people and motivate them to carry the conversation forward. In 2012, Dee founded CatalystCon, which she regards as a “melting pot of sexuality,” uniting sex educators, sexologists, sex workers, writers, activists, and anyone with a passion for creating change. To Dee, “knowledge is power, and sharing knowledge is the first spark in igniting change.” This is the fundamental principle behind CatalystCon.

Sep 192014
 

cooper beckettSex Out Loud radio is BACK! After a brief hiatus of summer reruns, I’m live tomorrow night at 8 pm ET / 5 pm talking with Cooper Beckett host of the popular podcast “Life on the Swingset” (and who you also know as the voice announcer of my show). Cooper will give us an update on what happened at CatalystCon West last week. We’ll also discuss progressive swinging and swingers, orgy etiquette, and answer listener questions about polyamory and non-monogamy.

This week’s show is LIVE – and I’ve missed talking to my listeners, so I hope you’re ready to talk to me. Find out all the ways to listen here so you can call in with questions and comments at 1-866-472-5788, join the discussion on Facebook or Twitter, or e-mail me via tristan(at)puckerup.com and I’ll read them live on the air.

Cooper Beckett‘s life isn’t like other people’s. When he’s not writing or podcasting at Life on the Swingset, he’s living it up as an evangelical swinger drifting toward poly, spreading the good word that “sharing is caring.” He truly believes that a good many people would be open to exploring the fringe of human sexuality and relationships, knocking down the borders between orientations, and experiencing the most basic of human rights: great sex, if only they were told it’s okay to do so. He has resolved to change the world, even if it’s only one couple at a time.

Sex Out Loud airs every Friday at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET on the VoiceAmerica Variety channel. You can listen on your computer, phone, or tablet, find all the ways here!

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May 282014
 

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This Friday for Sex Out Loud I feature one of my trailblazing influences, the “Mother of Masturbation”: Betty Dodson. Dodson is an artist, author, and PhD sexologist who authored the books Sex For One, Orgasms for Two, and My Romantic Love Wars: A Sexual Memoir. Her collaborative partner Carlin Ross is an entrepreneur and sex educator and together they are two intergenerational, sex-positive feminists whose dialogue on sexuality and feminism entertains and educates. This interview was recorded live at CatalystCon 2014 and Betty Dodson does NOT hold back about anything, so tune in to hear this unforgettable interview.

Betty Dodson, artist, author, and PhD sexologist has been one of the principal voices for women’s sexual pleasure and health for over three decades. Dodson had the first one-woman show of erotic art in ’68 in NYC followed by three others. For 25 years, she ran Bodysex groups where women learned about their bodies and orgasms through the practice of self-stimulation. Her first book, Liberating Masturbation: A Meditation on Selflove (’74) became a feminist classic. Sex for One (’87) sold over a million copies. Orgasms for Two (’02) embraces partner sex and My Romantic Love Wars: A Sexual Memoir details her experiences with America’s Sexual Revolution, the women’s movement and her feminist sexual activism with bodysex groups that she conducted for 25 years. In 1994, she earned a PhD in clinical sexology. Dodson has presented at conferences for sexual scientists, therapists, and psychologists.

Carlin Ross, entrepreneur and sex educator, has transcended her “ESQ” tagline to position herself at the forefront of female sexuality. She left her law career to create a lifestyle brand for women: cherrybomb. The site launch was featured on the front page of the NY Times on February 24, 2004. She has interviewed sexperts such as Ian Kerner, Helen Fischer, Candida Royalle, Dr. Judy Kuriansky, and Dr. Barbara Bartlik for the Sex Herald. And she has written/produced/directed several erotic features for Playgirl TV in addition to several original features – most recently Betty Dodson’s Bodysex Workshop. She has appeared on The Sharon Osbourne Show, CNN, MSNBC, and Dateline and radio shows including Afternoon Advice on Playboy Radio. She has been featured in national publications including Marie Claire and Esquire.

Sex Out Loud airs every Friday at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET on the VoiceAmerica Variety channel. You can listen on your computer, phone, or tablet, find all the ways here!

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Apr 222014
 

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This Friday on Sex Out Loud at 8 pm ET / 5 pm PT, I’m thrilled to have two amazing guests on my show! Award-winning artist, performer, playwright, and artistic producer, Regie Cabico has been on two seasons of HBO’s Def Poetry Jam and NPR’s Snap Judgment. The recently dubbed “the Lady Gaga of poetry” shares his spoken word skills in storytelling and humor.  Twanna Hines first started writing about sex anonymously as Funky Brown Chick. The award-winning educator, writer, and media commentator now focuses on the sociology of sexuality and its relationship to culture and technology. This episode was filmed before a live studio audience at CatalystCon East 2014.

Twanna A. Hines, M.S., is an award-winning educator, sex columnist, and TV and radio commentator focused on the sociology of sexuality and its relationship to culture and Internet technology. Founder of FUNKY BROWN CHICK®, she has contributed to CNN, NPR, Sirius, Time Out New York, Lifetime, Mashable, Nerve, New York Press, Fast Company magazine, and the Huffington Post as well as CBC (Canadian National Radio), Paris Première (French Television), and Al Jazeera. She has also been quoted in a host of outlets throughout the U.S., from New York magazine to the San Francisco Chronicle. She is a syndicated sex columnist for Metro International newspapers. Twanna has 15 years experience in education, and she has received certified training in medically-accurate, evidence-based sex education. From speaking at Harvard to working one-on-one with undergraduate students at Florida State University, Hines has taught a broad range of majors with differing levels of academic competencies in both small and large enrollment classes. Her comprehensive approach to education prepares individuals to participate in an increasingly interconnected world, and her commentary on immigration is included in the textbook Migration and Immigration: A Global View. She has worked with health policymakers and elected officials and for the University of Chicago, Newsweek, and U.S. State Department. Having lived in London, Chicago, Amsterdam, New York, Los Angeles and The Hague, she speaks English and Dutch fluently. Raised evangelical Christian in rural Illinois and Mississippi, she received abstinence-only sex education. She can tell you, from first-hand experience, exactly how it functions and why it’s not really education at all. In 2005, strongly believing adults needed a space to discuss sex openly without fearing judgment, she built FUNKY BROWN CHICK®. Called one of “the internet’s sultriest sharers” by the Village Voice, details about her rendezvous have been printed in Glamour magazine.

Regie Cabico. His work appears in over 30 anthologies including Aloud: Voices from the Nuyorican Poets Café, Spoken Word Revolution, Chorus & The Outlaw Bible of American Poetry . He co-edited Poetry Nation,: A North American Anthology of Fusion Poetry and guest editor for Beltway Poetry Quarterly. He has shared the stage with Patti Smith, Allen Ginsberg and through Howard Zinn’s Portraits Project at NYU, has performed with Stanley Tucci, Jesse Eisenberg & Lupe Fiasco. He is a recipient of a 2008 Future Aesthetics Arts Award Regrant from The Ford Foundation/Hip Hop Theater Festival, three New York Foundation for the Arts Fellowships for Poetry and Multidisciplinary Performance, The Larry Neal Awards for Poetry 2007 (3rd Place) and 2008 (1st Place), a 2008 DC Commission for the Arts Poetry Fellowship. He received the 2006 Writers for Writers Award from Poets & Writers for his work teaching at-risk youth at Bellevue Hospital in New York. Other recipients include Arthur Miller, Sharon Olds, Stephen King, Amy Tan & Edward Albee. He is a former Artist In Residence at NYU’s Asian Pacific American Studies Program and has served as faculty at Banff’s Spoken Word Program and Kundiman. As a theater artist he has directed two plays for the 2007 & 2008 Hip Hop Theater Festival,Elegies In The Key Of Funk and The Other Side. He received three New York Innovative Theater Award Nominations for his work in Too Much Light Makes The Baby Go Blind with a win for Best Performance Art Production The Kenyon Review recently named Regie Cabico the “Lady Gaga of Poetry” and he has been listed in BUST magazine’s 100 Men We Love. His plays have been produced at the 2003 Humana Theater Festival (as part of RHYTHMICITY with UniVerses, Reg E. Gaines, Willie Perdomo & Rha Goddess, 2004 Kennedy Center Play Lab, Joe’s Pub The Public Theater Festival, The Asian American Theater Festival, Living Word Festival, San Francisco. The Kitchen, Dixon Place, LaMama, The Philadelphia Fringe Festival, The New York Fringe Festival, Theater Offensive, among other venues. He received three New York Innovative Theater Award nominations for his work in the New York Production of Too Much Light Makes the Baby Go Blind with a 2006 award for Best Performance Art Production. His latest solo play Unbuckled was developed with grants from National Performance Network and Mid-Atlantic Arts Foundation. He has been longtime curator of Composers Collaborative’s Non Sequitur Series presented at Lincoln Center, Here Theater & The Flea Theater. He has been 2006 artist in residence for New York University’s Asian American Studies Program & 2009 artist in residence at Deanza College. He is the Youth Program Coordinator for Split this Rock Poetry Festival and is he artistic director of Sol & Soul, an arts and activist organization. He is the co-founder of SULU DC, a monthly Asian American Performance Series and is the co-director of CAPTURING FIRE: A QUEER SPOKEN WORD SUMMIT.He is pleased to be part of BANFF’s 2011 Spoken Word Faculty.

Sex Out Loud airs every Friday at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET on the VoiceAmerica Variety channel. You can listen on your computer, phone, or tablet, find all the ways here!

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Apr 162014
 

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Recorded live at CatalystCon, this Friday is my interview with writer, educator, and interdisciplinary media-maker Tina Horn. They discuss Tina Horn’s new sexuality podcast, Why Are People Into That?! aka YAPIT, which focuses on a subject of human sexuality and features interviews with experts exploring science, psychology, social dynamics, and history as well as scintillating stories and tips for exploration. We also discuss her upcoming project, a handbook for modern sex workers.

Tina Horn is a writer, educator, and interdisciplinary media-maker. She produces and hosts “Why Are People Into That?!”, a new podcast that demystifies desire. In 2010, she co-created, produced, and directed a project called QueerPorn.Tv, which won two Feminist Porn Awards and a Cinekink Award, in addition to being nominated for an AVN. Tina holds an MFA in Creative Nonfiction Writing from Sarah Lawrence College. Her writing has appeared in several Cleis Press anthologies, including Best Bondage Erotica 2010; she has also blogged for Vice, Helix Queer Performance Network, Fleshbot and Gaga Stigmata, and published articles in The Believer, AORTA, and Whore! magazines. Over the past five years, Tina’s workshops on dirty talk, sex worker self care, and spanking have been featured at a variety of international venues, including Good Vibrations, Perverts Put Out, Red Umbrella Diaries, UC Berkeley, Lesbian Sex Mafia, Dark Odyssey, and the Feminist Porn Conference at University of Toronto. Born in Northern California, she now lives in Manhattan.

Sex Out Loud airs every Friday at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET on the VoiceAmerica Variety channel. You can listen on your computer, phone, or tablet, find all the ways here!

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Nov 052013
 

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Recorded live in front of a studio audience at CatalystCon West, this Friday’s episode of Sex Out Loud features award-winning writer and director, Jacky St. James. We’ll discuss how she got into the adult entertainment business, why she’s an advocate of couple’s-oriented pornography, and how she achieves her goals to provide the highest quality content in the adult marketplace while also creating a greater sense of sexual freedom and openness through her work. Jacky St. James will also talk about the role of a good girl….and why good girls like it bad.

Jacky St. James is an award winning writer and director in the adult entertainment industry. She is known for creating a wide range of films, from romantic comedies to edgier all-sex releases, with her most acclaimed titles being: Torn, The Friend Zone, Power and Control, The Submission of Emma Marx, and The Temptation of Eve. During this past 2013 award season, Torn (which St. James wrote and then subsequently co-directed with Eddie Powell) took home multiple awards including: Best Actor, Best Actress, Best Couples’ Release, and Best Screenplay. Throughout her career in adult, St. James has been an advocate of couple’s-oriented pornography and has been a guest speaker UC Santa Barbara, UCLA, AEE, Exxxotica, XBIZ 360. She has been featured in several popular mainstream publications including Jezebel, Slate, and the Examiner. St. James shares pictures, clips, and stories about her successes and debacles as a woman working within the adult industry on her website, missjackystjames.com.

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Oct 152013
 

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The first interview in our CatalystCon West 2013 series of episodes recorded in front of a live studio audience, I welcome Danny Wylde back to Sex Out Loud this Friday, October 18th at 8 pm ET / 5 pm PT. You may also recognize Danny from several of my films and he’s recently opened Future Sex Shock, his own porn studio. Wylde also just released Come To My Brother, his first novel, which combines the enduring horror of vampires with an honest and authentic exploration of life in Northern California, working in porn, and growing up. Wylde discusses sex, performing, and what inspires his creative work.

Danny Wylde is a pornographer, writer, musician, and filmmaker living in Los Angeles, CA. He updates his personal blog at trvewestcoastfiction.blogspot.com
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