Mar 272016
 

This Friday, Tristan Taormino welcomes Jaclyn Friedman to Sex Out Loud – they will be together in our LA studio LIVE, so call in and join the conversation! 866-472-5788

JFheadshotLB-1-300x199Jaclyn Friedman is a writer, speaker and activist, and creator of the hit books Yes Means Yes: Visions of Female Sexual Power and a World Without Rape (one of Publishers’ Weekly’s Top 100 Books of 2009, and #11 on Ms. Magazine’s Top 100 Feminist Nonfiction of All Time list) and What You Really Really Want: The Smart Girl’s Shame-Free Guide to Sex & Safety. Her popular podcast, Unscrewed, is paving new paths to sexual liberation.

As an undergraduate, Jaclyn thought she was too smart to become a victim of sexual assault – until another student proved her wrong. That experience eventually led her to become a student and instructor of IMPACT safety training. At IMPACT, she helped bring safety skills to the communities which most need them, including gang-involved high school students and women transitioning out of abusive relationships.

Friedman’s work has popularized the “yes means yes” standard of sexual consent that is quickly becoming law on many US campuses. She has also helped redefine the concept of “healthy sexuality,” starting with two landmark pieces: the interview “F*cking While Feminist” and the highly personal polemic “My Sluthood, Myself,” which together inspired thousands of responses and explorations across the blogosphere and beyond. Her insistence that authentic sexual liberation is a necessary condition to end the systemic sexualization and violation of women led Lyn Mikel Brown (Co-founder of SPARK and Professor of Education and Women’s, Gender, and Sexuality Studies, Colby College) to call her “this generation’s version of Dr. Ruth.”

Friedman is a popular speaker on campuses and at conferences across the U.S. and beyond. She has been a guest on the Today Show, Nightline, PBS News Hour, the Melissa Harris-Perry Show, and numerous other radio and television shows, and her commentary has appeared in outlets including CNN, Time, The Washington Post, The Nation, Jezebel and The Huffington Post. She is a SheSource expert and a Progressive Women’s Voices alumna, and was named one of 2009’s Top 40 Progressive Leaders Under 40 by the New Leaders Council. Friedman is a founder and the former Executive Director of Women, Action & the Media, where she led the successful #FBrape campaign to apply Facebook’s hate-speech ban to content that promotes gender-based violence. Friedman also holds an MFA in creative writing from Emerson College.

Tune in Friday, April 1 at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET to hear this show. Join the discussion on Twitter where we livetweet each week. Sex Out Loud airs every Friday, you can listen along on your computer, tablet, or phone, find all the ways at SexOutLoudRadio.com. If you missed any part of the episode or want to listen again, you can listen to every episode on demand here.

Mar 252016
 
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Ignacio Rivera – activist, writer, educator, filmmaker, performance artist and mother – returns to Sex Out Loud after being one of our first guests in 2012. Ignacio has spoken publicly about being a survivor and sex worker, and how the elimination of sex/sex education coupled with patriarchy, capitalism and homophobia have had a damaging effect on society. They are a 2016 Just Beginnings Collaborative Fellow and currently working on The Heal Project, a campaign to help create dialogue and encourage intentional, proactive sex positivity for survivors of sexual abuse.

Tune in to Sex Out Loud this Friday, March 25th at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET. This week’s show is LIVE so call in to Voice America with questions and comments at 1-866-472-5788, join the discussion on Twitter @SexOutLoudRadio, or e-mail me via tristan(at)puckerup.com and I’ll read them live on the air. If you can’t call us live, leave a voicemail on the SOL Hotline: 323-SEX-8266. Call us with your questions, stories, comments, and requests — 24/7 and we’ll play it on the air!

ignacio-2Ignacio Rivera is a Queer, Trans, Two-Spirit, Black-Boricua Taíno who prefers the gender-neutral pronoun “they.” Ignacio has spoken nationally and internationally on racism, sexism, LGBTQ issues, anti-oppression, anti-violence, sexual liberation, multi-issue organizing and more. Ignacio’s work has manifested itself through skits, one-person shows, poetry, lectures, workshops, and experimental film. Ignacio is the founder of Poly Patao Productions, sporadically blogs on WhatTheySaidBlog.com, is one of the founding board members of Queers for Economic Justice as well as one of the 2016 Just Beginnings Collaborative Fellows. Just Beginnings Collaborative (JBC) is a movement building platform designed to initiate, cultivate, and fund strategic efforts to end child sexual abuse.

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Mar 182016
 

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Tonight’s episode celebrates the book Coming Out Like a Porn Star: Essays on Pornography, Protection, and Privacy. Hailed as one of the “Best Sex Books of 2015” by Reason Magazine, this pivotal book is the largest published collection of essays written by porn professionals about their industry. Three contributors – Lorelei Lee, James Darling, and Milcah Halili Orbacedo – join us to read from their essays and talk about the book’s release.

Tune in to Sex Out Loud this Friday, March 18th at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET. This week’s show is LIVE so call in to Voice America with questions and comments at 1-866-472-5788, join the discussion on Twitter @SexOutLoudRadio, or e-mail me via tristan(at)puckerup.com and I’ll read them live on the air. If you can’t call us live, leave a voicemail on the SOL Hotline: 323-SEX-8266. Call us with your questions, stories, comments, and requests — 24/7 and we’ll play it on the air!

lorelei-091Lorelei Lee has been an adult film performer since 2000 and a director since 2009.  Her writing has appeared in Salon, The Rumpus, Wired, Denver Quarterly, The Los Angeles Review of Books, and elsewhere. She is a contributor to The Feminist Porn Book and the cowriter of About Cherry, distributed by IFC Films. You can find her tweeting about politics and books @MissLoreleiLee, and about naked people @XOXOLoreleiLee.

jamesdarlingbedJames Darling is a bay area based trans adult performer, sex educator and director. James was included on the Trans 100 for his work in the adult industry, two time Transgender Erotica Awards FTM Performer of the year, Feminist Porn Awards Heartthrob of the Year and has been nominated numerous times at AVN, XBiz, and Cybersocket as a performer and director. Darling’s rise in porn began with his performance debut on CrashPadSeries.com, and continued with queer and trans porn studios, including T-Wood Pictures, TROUBLEfilms, Alternadudes and Buck Angel Entertainment. In 2012 James launched FTMFUCKER.com, one of the first all FTM porn membership sites and has since released four feature length films. His work has been featured internationally at film festivals, universities and conferences on topics related to trans issues, sex worker rights and privacy. You can find more of James Darling’s adventures on Twitter and Tumblr at JamesDarlingxxx.

Milcah Halili OrbacedoMilcah Halili Orbacedo is a writer and performer. Their writing has appeared on The Rumpus, Tits and Sass, Witch Craft Mag, Breakthrough, and Vice. Most of their adult film work can be found at Kink.com. They are obsessed with their work-in-progress memoir, Sisterhood, meditations on their intimate writer and pornographer friends. Follow Milcah on Twitter @SlutSmartSoul.

Mar 042016
 

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This week’s show features an interview with Andre Shakti, one of the busiest and queerest gals in porn. We talk desire, safety, and her work to re-eroticize acts and experiences that are traditionally taboo in today’s industry. Spend an hour with Shakti and learn to fuck the world on your own terms! Recorded live in person at the Sex Down South 2015 conference in Atlanta.

Tune in Friday, March 4th at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET to hear this show premiere or listen to it on demand as a podcast. Join the discussion on Twitter where we livetweet each week. Sex Out Loud airs every Friday, you can listen along on your computer, tablet, or phone, find all the ways at SexOutLoudRadio.com If you missed any part of the episode or want to listen again, you can listen to every episode on demand here. Got a question or comment for the show? Call the SOL Hotline: 323-SEX-8266. Leave us your questions, stories, comments, and requests — 24/7 and we’ll play it on the air! (Or you can stay anonymous and ask Tristan to read it aloud.)

Andre Shakti is a Bay Area educator, producer, activist, and professional slut devoted to normalizing alternative desires, de-stigmatizing sex workers and their partners, and not taking herself too seriously.  She writes about sex work for Cosmopolitan online and is currently working on an anthology of sex advice anecdotes by sex workers for ThreeLMedia. She recently had an essay published in the anthology “Coming Out Like a Porn Star”.

Feb 262016
 

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This week we welcome Deborah Kagan, Mojo Recovery Specialist and author of “Find Your ME Spot: 52 Ways to Reclaim Your Confidence, Feel Good in Your Own Skin and Live a Turned On Life” and the forthcoming “The Sensually Empowered Woman”. We’ll discuss the source of true self-esteem, holistic sexuality, and how to recover your mojo (or increase what you already have). Deborah Kagan is also offering a free gift to Sex Out Loud listeners, a four-part video series entitled The Four Principles to Being a Sensually Empowered Woman. Click on the link and check it out!

Tune in to Sex Out Loud this Friday, February 26th at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET. This week’s show is LIVE so call in to Voice America with questions and comments at 1-866-472-5788, join the discussion on Twitter @SexOutLoudRadio, or e-mail me via tristan(at)puckerup.com and I’ll read them live on the air. If you can’t call us live, leave a voicemail on the SOL Hotline: 323-SEX-8266. Call us with your questions, stories, comments, and requests — 24/7 and we’ll play it on the air!

Deborah Kagan is a Mojo Recovery Specialist with years of practice being a turned-on woman. She helps women tap into their innate power and connect with their mojo, which is the source of true self-esteem.  From this place, women gain increased enthusiasm for life allowing for great self-confidence resulting in the ability to earn more money, reduce stress and create thriving relationships (personally and professionally). She is the author of Find Your ME Spot: 52 Ways to Reclaim Your Confidence, Feel Good in Your Own Skin and Live a Turned On Life and the forthcoming The Sensually Empowered Woman. Her methods combine over 20 years of information and experience in the fields of holistic health and human sexuality. For 12 of those years, she has been “Healing the Planet – One Space at a Time™” through her career as a high-end Feng Shui consultant for clients including NBC, Disney, Bellagio Hotel, CAA and William Morris Agency. Deborah is a popular guest speaker on the topic of sensuality and how to transform all areas of your life – personal, business and spiritual – into one of creativity, passion and wealth. As a philanthropist and community activist, Deborah is on the advisory board of Peace Over Violence and is the founder/executive producer of VDAY Santa Monica, a benefit raising awareness and funds to end violence against women and girls.
Feb 192016
 

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This week’s guest is award-winning writer & teacher Cris Mazza to discuss Something Wrong With Her, a hybrid memoir, and the companion piece to her most recent novel, Various Men Who Knew Us As Girls. In the past 15 years, Cris Mazza’s work as a novelist expanded as she continued to consider psychological and emotional complexities of life, but has begun to do so with the contributing complication of place: How regions or localities that still have their own unique characteristics of landscape, society, and culture impact the human experiences (sexuality, family, authority, gender) that Mazza explores in fiction. Mazza’s latest books, Various Men Who Knew Us as Girls and Something Wrong With Her, return to her native San Diego in the 70s and 80s, and the unsettling times before law governing sexual harassment existed.

Tune in to Sex Out Loud this Friday, February 19th at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET. This week’s show is LIVE so call in to Voice America with questions and comments at 1-866-472-5788, join the discussion on Twitter @SexOutLoudRadio, or e-mail me via tristan(at)puckerup.com and I’ll read them live on the air. If you can’t call us live, leave a voicemail on the SOL Hotline: 323-SEX-8266. Call us with your questions, stories, comments, and requests — 24/7 and we’ll play it on the air!

Cris Mazza’s newest title is a real-time memoir titled Something Wrong With Her chronicling the 25-year journey to reunite with a boy from her past.  She is currently co-producer, writer, and lead actress for a feature film that will be a fictional sequel to that memoir, a groundbreaking blend of memoir, documentary and fiction. Mazza has sixteen other titles including her first novel, How to Leave a Country, which won the PEN/Nelson Algren Award for book-length fiction. Currently living 50 miles west of Chicago, she is a professor in the Program for Writers at the University of Illinois at Chicago.

Feb 122016
 

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Portrait photographer, designer & artist N. Maxwell Lander comes to the show to discuss his recently published book “Carnal Anomaly”, a fine art photography book that poses the question, what if the human body were an artifice, an artifact, or a tool? Brilliant color photographs re-envision the human body through stunning portrayals of fetish, BDSM, and body modification. Lander is joined by JP Robichaud, one of the models and muses of the book, and we discuss issues around violence, kink, and photographic depictions of our dark sides.

Tune in to Sex Out Loud this Friday, February 12th at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET. This week’s show is LIVE so call in to Voice America with questions and comments at 1-866-472-5788, join the discussion on Twitter @SexOutLoudRadio, or e-mail me via tristan(at)puckerup.com and I’ll read them live on the air. If you can’t call us live, leave a voicemail on the SOL Hotline: 323-SEX-8266. Call us with your questions, stories, comments, and requests — 24/7 and we’ll play it on the air!

nml1N Maxwell Lander is a photographer, designer, and other-type-of-artist. He is an advocate of the Oxford Dictionary including “pig” as a classification of gender.  He remembers being told his first word was “chocolate” and that his first steps were taken in order to get closer to certain parts of Dolly Parton on a TV screen. He aspires to someday grow a beard (for man contouring) and hopes to use his newly acquired deep voice to become the fat guy in the dance music video that inserts the singer’s name into the beginning.

JP Headshot 2JP Robichaud has been working and playing with control for the past ten years, both in his personal life and practice and also as the head rigger for The Keyhole Sessions, Toronto’s foremost erotic life drawing and photography experience. JP was the resident stage manager for Les Coquettes Cabaret Burlesque and recently took on stage management duties for the Toronto Burlesque Festival. He has organized sexuality workshops around Toronto, working with such educators as Mollena Williams, Madison Young, Graydancer, Midori, and Tristan Taormino, and is the co-programmer & producer of Playground, Toronto’s fastest growing sexuality conference. He co-presented a workshop on Consent at the 2015 Guelph Sexuality Conference, has been a featured performer for Madison Young’s Femina Potens gallery in both San Francisco and New York City, and was the technical director of the 2013 and 2014 Good For Her Feminist Porn Awards. He can be found on Twitter and Instagram at @controlenthused

Feb 052016
 

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This Friday Willy Wilkinson, MPH, writer and public health consultant joins us to discuss his memoir: Born on the Edge of Race and Gender: A Voice for Cultural Competency. Wilkinson, a mixed heritage, Asian American trans man and social movement leader has been advocating for marginalized populations since the early days of the HIV/AIDS epidemic. Poetic, humorous, and profoundly provocative, this compelling memoir explores the ambiguity and complexity of Willy’s intersectional experience with race, gender, sexuality, disability, class, and parenthood—within a larger cultural competency, public health, and policy advocacy framework.

Tune in to Sex Out Loud this Friday, January 29th at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET. This week’s show is LIVE so call in to Voice America with questions and comments at 1-866-472-5788, join the discussion on Twitter @SexOutLoudRadio, or e-mail me via tristan(at)puckerup.com and I’ll read them live on the air. If you can’t call us live, leave a voicemail on the SOL Hotline: 323-SEX-8266. Call us with your questions, stories, comments, and requests — 24/7 and we’ll play it on the air!

Sex Out Loud airs every Friday, you can listen along on your computer, tablet, or phone. Find all the ways at SexOutLoudRadio.com

DSC_0437Willy Wilkinson, MPH is an award-winning, Asian American, transgender writer, public health consultant, cultural competency trainer, public speaker, and spoken word performer. A dynamic and engaging presenter who is recognized widely for his expertise in transgender issues, he has provided training, consultation services, and keynote speeches for hundreds of community health organizations, educational institutions, and businesses on how to provide equal access for LGBTQ populations.

Willy is the author of the new book Born on the Edge of Race and Gender: A Voice for Cultural Competency, which transforms the memoir genre into a cultural competency tool, and uses the power of storytelling to illuminate transgender social, legislative, policy, and public health issues. The first book by a trans man of color in nearly a decade, this acclaimed new work celebrates complexities, challenges, and sometimes humorous experiences at the intersections of race, gender, disability, class, sexuality, and parenthood. Willy has written for numerous periodicals, such as the San Francisco Chronicle, the Advocate, the Huffington Post, and Asian Week. His work has appeared in journals such as Transgender Studies Quarterly, and numerous anthologies, including Trans Bodies, Trans Selves and Manning Up: Transsexual Men on Finding Brotherhood, Family, and Themselves. The Lambda Literary Review has described his writing as “highly evocative.”

In addition to cultural competency training, Willy assists organizations with curriculum and materials development, action planning, strategic planning, policy development, qualitative research, needs assessment, evaluation, and risk management. He was the lead consultant at the California statewide Community Alliance for Culturally and Linguistically Appropriate Services, as well as a number of statewide technical assistance contracts. He provided LGBT training nationwide for navigators conducting enrollment for health insurance under the Affordable Care Act, a project of Out2Enroll and Center for American Progress, in partnership with the White House and the Department of Health and Human Services.

Willy has been advocating for marginalized populations since the early days of the HIV/AIDS epidemic. He has worked extensively with communities of color, families, sex workers, substance users, youth, and people with disabilities. As the first Asian and first transgender community health outreach worker providing street-based HIV education and crisis intervention for sex workers and drug users in San Francisco’s Tenderloin District, Willy pioneered an outreach model that addressed the unique needs of Asians and Pacific Islanders. He worked on the first large-scale research project on the transgender community, and developed the first HIV prevention program for trans men who have sex with other men. He was a key organizer of the API lesbian movement of the ‘80s, and organized the first peer support programs for Asian transmasculine individuals and people of color on the female-to-male spectrum. Willy launched the Health Care Access Project at Transgender Law Center, the first program in the nation to address trans health disparities through provider training, “know your rights” workshops for community members, and advocacy for trans-competent care.

Willy served as a founding board member for both Transgender Law Center and Asian & Pacific Islander Wellness Center, and on numerous advisory boards and committees. He earned a Masters in Public Health in Community Health Education from UC Berkeley, and a BA in Women’s Studies from UC Santa Cruz.

Willy is the recipient of a National Lesbian and Gay Journalists Association award, and the Transgender Law Center Vanguard Award, and is recognized on the Trans 100. He is the first transgender person to receive the Asian and Pacific Islander Queer Women and Transgender Community Phoenix Award. He lives in Oakland, California with his three vibrant young children. Learn more at www.willywilkinson.com.

Jan 282016
 

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This week we’re live with author, editor & photographer David Steinberg. Over the last 15 years he has photographed the intimate sexuality of over 160 couples of all ages, body types, ethnicities, and sexual preferences, attempting to capture on film the honest emotions of people engaged in sex. We discuss his latest book, This Thing We Call Sex: A Radically Sensible Look at Sex in America, as well as how he became a publisher of artistic, imaginative sexual and erotic material, focused on offering sex-positive alternatives to the dominant sexual cultures of fear, denial, and moral judgment.

Tune in to Sex Out Loud this Friday, January 29th at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET. This week’s show is LIVE so call in to Voice America with questions and comments at 1-866-472-5788, join the discussion on Twitter @SexOutLoudRadio, or e-mail me via tristan(at)puckerup.com and I’ll read them live on the air. If you can’t call us live, leave a voicemail on the SOL Hotline: 323-SEX-8266. Call us with your questions, stories, comments, and requests — 24/7 and we’ll play it on the air!

Tune in to Sex Out Loud every Friday, you can listen along on your computer, tablet, or phone, find all the ways at SexOutLoudRadio.com

David Steinberg is an author, editor, photographer, and publisher of artistic, imaginative sexual and erotic material. His books include This Thing We Call Sex: A Radically Sensible Look at Sex in America; Divas of San Francisco: Portraits of Transsexual Women; Photo Sex: Fine Art Sexual Photography Comes of Age; Erotic by Nature: A Celebration of Life, of Love, and of Our Wonderful Bodies; and The Erotic Impulse: Honoring the Sensual Self. For 15 years he wrote a syndicated monthly column on sex and gender issues, Comes Naturally. Over the last 15 years he has photographed the intimate sexuality of over 160 couples of all ages, body types, ethnicities, and sexual preferences, attempting to capture on film the honest emotions of people engaged in sex. He was named Erotic Photographer of the Year in 2010 by the Leydig Trust (London), and Master of Erotic Art by the Seattle Erotic Art Festival in 2012. He is working on two books of sexual photographs, Loving Couples, and SexAbility.

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Dec 172015
 

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How many African-American sexologist do you know? Frenchie Davis is one of the first and I was lucky enough to see her in person at the Sex Down South conference and I can’t wait for you all to meet her. Frenchie is a capacity consultant who does workshops and sex talk events and loves working with community, religious, and political organizations to help them engage and embrace sex-positive sexuality. She maintains a full plate while completing her M. Ed of Human Sexuality at Widener University, the top accredited Human Sexuality graduate and doctoral program in the United Sates. Frenchie Davis has been the celebrated host and producer of her ever popular and edge cutting sexuality talk show titled “Libido Talk” on WBAI 99.5 FM of New York City. This Friday we talk live about Black sexuality, respectability politics, how erotic poetry has inspired her and more!

Tune in to Sex Out Loud this Friday, December 18th at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET. This week’s show is LIVE so call in to Voice America with questions and comments at 1-866-472-5788, join the discussion on Twitter @SexOutLoudRadio, or e-mail me via tristan(at)puckerup.com and I’ll read them live on the air. Tune in to Sex Out Loud every Friday, you can listen along on your computer, tablet, or phone, find all the ways at SexOutLoudRadio.com!

Frenchie Davis is an authority on Human Sexuality with a focus on the African-American community. She combines her love and expertise of social services, education, and pop-culture to Entertain, Educate and Enhance the emotional and sexiological intelligence of her audiences. She has an extensive history in social services and built her expertise through HIV/AIDS advocacy, managing crisis shelters for battered women and their children and community outreach. Many got to know Frenchie through her debut appearance on HBO’s Def Poetry Jam in 2003 when she performed an erotic poem from her book titled: Not From Between My Thighs. Frenchie became one of the first African-American poets to be sold at the first Museum of Sex in New York City. Now Frenchie has a consultant company, Libido Talk. Frenchie works both nationally and internationally through workshops, lectures, blogging and TV appearances and also produced an edge cutting sexuality talk show, “Libido Talk” on WBAI 99.5 FM of New York City for 3 years.

On the fun side, Frenchie was penned the Erotic Poet Princess; She went on to produce and host some of the most pivotal poetry events throughout the Detroit Metro City Area which included memorable nights like Sho’ You Right poetry series, and The Premiere which became a poetic house of national and international spoken word celebrities from Def Poetry Jam, Detroit Writer’s Guild, to The Last Poets. Frenchie elevated her household name when she appeared on season 3 of HBO’s Russell Simmons Presents Def Poetry Jam in 2003. Adding to her credit was her first self-published collection of poems, “Not From Between My Thighs”. Frenchie became one of the first African-American poets to be sold at the United States first Museum of Sex in New York City. Davis has lectured at more than 50 universities and colleges since her debut for HBO’s Def Poetry Jam. She’s shared stages and platforms with some of the most influential artist in the industry such as: Musiq, Trey Songz, Common, Mos Def, Talib Kweli, Jessica Care Moore, Sonia Sanchez, Jill Scott and the Def Poetry Jam family. Davis was a contributing editor and emotional health specialist to BE Magazine, Marymount Manhattan Newspaper and she continues to be embraced by stages overseas in London, United Kingdom; Holland; Germany and Canada. Frenchie Davis is ready to open a national dialogue about sexuality and enhance emotional intelligence wherever her message and voice can carry her. Want to learn more, check Frenchie out at www.LibidoTalk.com